Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
No sh!t sherlock. 1. Its common sense not to be an arrogant dousche. 2. Its being ****y/FUNNY.Originally posted by Phat
Just a lesson. That ****y technique will backfire if you over do it. I overdid it and blew my chance with this girl. I asked her later what was the problem. She was like YOUR TOO FULL OF UR SELF.
So guys keep the ****yness to a limit.
eh?Originally posted by undesputable
wow man, youve saved my life
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
bump:yes:Originally posted by Jerky Boi
****y "+" Funny
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
lolOriginally posted by undesputable
wow man, youve saved my life
There is a little C/F in all of us.... perhaps you're not doing it completely right? I mean you don't just go up to some girl and imply how much of a bit-ch you think she is. The neg hit should probably be saved for later on in the convo, or if she gives you the attitude. This "game" is really a battle of attitudes.... if you come off as the dominant figure, the guy who doesn't put up with her snotty behavior, you win. But anyway, a safe method is to just establish some rapport and then if/when she resists or gives attitude you break out the C/F on her as-s. C/F isn't about being an arrogant a-hole, but rather showing her you're a sociable, playful, down-to-earth man who has his crap together. You can be as nice as you want with this, but if you do nothing else, you gotta throw in some teasing. Nobody can deny the power of that, and if you have a pretty hot chick there, she should see you as a pretty nice package. I learned a long time ago that being a serious nice guy gets you zero girls. I like to say, "Be coc-ky with words, show her your nice side with your actions." Just do what you gotta do man. Do what works best for you.Originally posted by Ol'BlueEyes
I've tried the ****y/funny routine. It usually backfired since I did it AT FIRST APPROACH.
No woman, I don't care how hot or used to sycophantic behavior she is, wants to hear a neg-hit from a random stranger going for a number close.
I've approached HB's many times using C/F and gotten rejected, until I did it in front of a friend. Afterwards he said this:
Why'd you say that? You sounded like an *******.
That really hit home. C/F just isn't congruent with my personality. I have nothing to be ****y about, and I'm not particularly funny either.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.