"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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From heaven to hell in split seconds

EmotionalGeek

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On Friday. I was standing at the bar drinking my whiskey. I saw girl standing 1 meter from the counter waiting for some space to open. She is student, solid 8 or 9. I am 33. I make her some space. She comes to counter. I tell her that she just should say if she wanted to stand here. We get some short exchange but I ran out of the things to say so I turned my back to her and sipped my drink for about a minute. Then I go to dance. I meet her on dancing floor so I start to talk to her. It is going good. She is responsive. We start to dance and talk a lot teasing each other. When she want go to bathroom she say few times she will be back and she is after minute or so. When I go she waits for me. When we go to bar she catches my hand and if I squeeze she squeezes back. We were talking for about 5 hours. She tells me few times that she has classes next day but she stays.

I am certain that she will give me her number. At 4pm I says that I have to go because I have to drive in the morning. I feel she immediately loses interest. She say she does not remember and go to chaning room. After a while I decide to follow. I go there and she ask why I am here. I says that I told her that I am going home. Her friend says "He wants to walk you to bus". Friend goes one one she with me goes other way. After short walk she takes my hand (I did

not offer). We are walking like this and talking. When bus arrives I ask her for number again she says bus is here so I jump to the bus with her. There she checks her number on the phone the tells me but she switches one digit. I suspect that she did it intentionally but ping her and then she gives me right number. After we live the bus I try to convince her by humor and light banter that she takes me home. But after 30 minutes she extends the hand. I accept and go for the taxi.

On Sunday 19:20PM I sent message but I did not receive the answer.

I do not understand the situation. The dialog was really light and funny. I was really into her because of her character not looks and I really felt like we were soul mates. I was convinced she felt the same.

I think I did following errors:

1. Poor eye contact
2. Poor kino
3. I was not leading at the moments I felt like she was leading.
4. At the end I tried to be persistent but maybe I was a bit needy.

I do not understand this sudden lost of interest when she seemed very receptive and into me for like 5 hours and need some explanation. I feel wrecked today and have very ill humor. I want to avoid similar situations in the future.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lizardking82

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she had some free time to kill so she had a little fun. I had a 1.5 year relationship because the girl wanted to kill time before she went overseas to meet her true love. This is how they act.
Damn...this really puts things into perspective.
 

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On Friday. I was standing at the bar drinking my whiskey. I saw girl standing 1 meter from the counter waiting for some space to open. She is student, solid 8 or 9. I am 33. I make her some space. She comes to counter. I tell her that she just should say if she wanted to stand here. We get some short exchange but I ran out of the things to say so I turned my back to her and sipped my drink for about a minute. Then I go to dance. I meet her on dancing floor so I start to talk to her. It is going good. She is responsive. We start to dance and talk a lot teasing each other. When she want go to bathroom she say few times she will be back and she is after minute or so. When I go she waits for me. When we go to bar she catches my hand and if I squeeze she squeezes back. We were talking for about 5 hours. She tells me few times that she has classes next day but she stays.
Her: "Hopefully this guy understands I'm horny now and giving him hints that I want to get out of here."
You: "OK, cool...I'm going to go get a drink"

Basically she lost interest because she kept giving you hints and you didn't pick up on them, so she figures you are clueless, or too afraid to go for it.
Probably could have banged her that night...snooze you lose bro. Stop bullsh!tting with chicks for 5 hours. If you played it right, you could have been pounding her senseless for 3 of those hours...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Her: "Hopefully this guy understands I'm horny now and giving him hints that I want to get out of here."
You: "OK, cool...I'm going to go get a drink"

Basically she lost interest because she kept giving you hints and you didn't pick up on them, so she figures you are clueless, or too afraid to go for it.
Probably could have banged her that night...snooze you lose bro. Stop bullsh!tting with chicks for 5 hours. If you played it right, you could have been pounding her senseless for 3 of those hours...
I'm just learn this game. What would be proper escalation time frame? When to kiss, when take her home etc.?
 
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