Colin O'Brien
Don Juan
I've never been in anything like this (if I had been I probably wouldn't be here), but from what I hear it seems like a pretty sweet deal... how do things like this fall into place?
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"Friends With Benefits"
- Thread starter Colin O'Brien
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
It can be....
Its normally sweet for some time then falls apart (Nothing lasts forever)
I currently have a "friend with benefits". Its ok as long as you both agree on the rules.
It means i can keep seeing new girls without having to worry about regular sex. She gets the same out of it.
The only time there is problems in these situations is when those niggly "feelings" get involved.
Anyways....you ask how things like this fall into place....
I have had 3 "friends with benefits"
1st was an ex that we didnt want to get "serious" again....We just enjoyed fvcking each other.
2nd was a friend who turned into a friend with benefits who turned into a gf.
3 was the one im still seeing now. I started seeing her when she was with her now ex boyfriend. A relationship wasnt possible then so we were just s3x buddys. When they broke up we spoke talked about it and decided to keep things how they are.
There are many ways these things can start. Its normally when a full on reltionship is not a good idea or desired corse but you still sexually like the other person.
Sarge On!
Its normally sweet for some time then falls apart (Nothing lasts forever)
I currently have a "friend with benefits". Its ok as long as you both agree on the rules.
It means i can keep seeing new girls without having to worry about regular sex. She gets the same out of it.
The only time there is problems in these situations is when those niggly "feelings" get involved.
Anyways....you ask how things like this fall into place....
I have had 3 "friends with benefits"
1st was an ex that we didnt want to get "serious" again....We just enjoyed fvcking each other.
2nd was a friend who turned into a friend with benefits who turned into a gf.
3 was the one im still seeing now. I started seeing her when she was with her now ex boyfriend. A relationship wasnt possible then so we were just s3x buddys. When they broke up we spoke talked about it and decided to keep things how they are.
There are many ways these things can start. Its normally when a full on reltionship is not a good idea or desired corse but you still sexually like the other person.
Sarge On!
Uncle Matt
Don Juan
i've had a few.
1st was an ex. we didnt wanna let go untill the bitter end! (she was going to start a new life in oz)
2nd was a girl i met in a bar who just thought i was funny. we talked on the net and eventually got talking about my freaky side. she liked, we got freaky....
3rd is a old mate. we have always teased each other and stuff but one day when i was sliding my hand up her skirt she didnt stop me.
it just happens sort of. its strange cus i can never quite remeber what i did to end up in the situation!!!
1st was an ex. we didnt wanna let go untill the bitter end! (she was going to start a new life in oz)
2nd was a girl i met in a bar who just thought i was funny. we talked on the net and eventually got talking about my freaky side. she liked, we got freaky....
3rd is a old mate. we have always teased each other and stuff but one day when i was sliding my hand up her skirt she didnt stop me.
it just happens sort of. its strange cus i can never quite remeber what i did to end up in the situation!!!
Colin O'Brien
Don Juan
So how would this particular engagement begin? I picture that a "hey lets be friend with benefits" talk wouldn't be highly effective, but then again I've heard that it pays to be honest... in some cases... advice?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
john paul
Senior Don Juan
You just have know when shes down for it
Some girls wont even consider it and others love the idea.
ex. You and her are hanging out alone because you two are confortable enough around eachother and then it just happens. You on top of her or her on top of you, whatever it doesnt matter.
The talking after the hookup is the most important part becuase you have to explain to her clearly the rules of engagment if she wants to continue this but you cant accually come out and say it like that. She needs to be smart enough to understand whats going on without you saying much.
All you need to make clear is shes just a friend to you but you would love to do it again. and again and again.
Some girls wont even consider it and others love the idea.
ex. You and her are hanging out alone because you two are confortable enough around eachother and then it just happens. You on top of her or her on top of you, whatever it doesnt matter.
The talking after the hookup is the most important part becuase you have to explain to her clearly the rules of engagment if she wants to continue this but you cant accually come out and say it like that. She needs to be smart enough to understand whats going on without you saying much.
All you need to make clear is shes just a friend to you but you would love to do it again. and again and again.