Colin O'Brien
Don Juan
I've never been in anything like this (if I had been I probably wouldn't be here), but from what I hear it seems like a pretty sweet deal... how do things like this fall into place?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
"Friends With Benefits"
- Thread starter Colin O'Brien
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
It can be....
Its normally sweet for some time then falls apart (Nothing lasts forever)
I currently have a "friend with benefits". Its ok as long as you both agree on the rules.
It means i can keep seeing new girls without having to worry about regular sex. She gets the same out of it.
The only time there is problems in these situations is when those niggly "feelings" get involved.
Anyways....you ask how things like this fall into place....
I have had 3 "friends with benefits"
1st was an ex that we didnt want to get "serious" again....We just enjoyed fvcking each other.
2nd was a friend who turned into a friend with benefits who turned into a gf.
3 was the one im still seeing now. I started seeing her when she was with her now ex boyfriend. A relationship wasnt possible then so we were just s3x buddys. When they broke up we spoke talked about it and decided to keep things how they are.
There are many ways these things can start. Its normally when a full on reltionship is not a good idea or desired corse but you still sexually like the other person.
Sarge On!
Its normally sweet for some time then falls apart (Nothing lasts forever)
I currently have a "friend with benefits". Its ok as long as you both agree on the rules.
It means i can keep seeing new girls without having to worry about regular sex. She gets the same out of it.
The only time there is problems in these situations is when those niggly "feelings" get involved.
Anyways....you ask how things like this fall into place....
I have had 3 "friends with benefits"
1st was an ex that we didnt want to get "serious" again....We just enjoyed fvcking each other.
2nd was a friend who turned into a friend with benefits who turned into a gf.
3 was the one im still seeing now. I started seeing her when she was with her now ex boyfriend. A relationship wasnt possible then so we were just s3x buddys. When they broke up we spoke talked about it and decided to keep things how they are.
There are many ways these things can start. Its normally when a full on reltionship is not a good idea or desired corse but you still sexually like the other person.
Sarge On!
Uncle Matt
Don Juan
i've had a few.
1st was an ex. we didnt wanna let go untill the bitter end! (she was going to start a new life in oz)
2nd was a girl i met in a bar who just thought i was funny. we talked on the net and eventually got talking about my freaky side. she liked, we got freaky....
3rd is a old mate. we have always teased each other and stuff but one day when i was sliding my hand up her skirt she didnt stop me.
it just happens sort of. its strange cus i can never quite remeber what i did to end up in the situation!!!
1st was an ex. we didnt wanna let go untill the bitter end! (she was going to start a new life in oz)
2nd was a girl i met in a bar who just thought i was funny. we talked on the net and eventually got talking about my freaky side. she liked, we got freaky....
3rd is a old mate. we have always teased each other and stuff but one day when i was sliding my hand up her skirt she didnt stop me.
it just happens sort of. its strange cus i can never quite remeber what i did to end up in the situation!!!
Colin O'Brien
Don Juan
So how would this particular engagement begin? I picture that a "hey lets be friend with benefits" talk wouldn't be highly effective, but then again I've heard that it pays to be honest... in some cases... advice?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
john paul
Senior Don Juan
You just have know when shes down for it
Some girls wont even consider it and others love the idea.
ex. You and her are hanging out alone because you two are confortable enough around eachother and then it just happens. You on top of her or her on top of you, whatever it doesnt matter.
The talking after the hookup is the most important part becuase you have to explain to her clearly the rules of engagment if she wants to continue this but you cant accually come out and say it like that. She needs to be smart enough to understand whats going on without you saying much.
All you need to make clear is shes just a friend to you but you would love to do it again. and again and again.
Some girls wont even consider it and others love the idea.
ex. You and her are hanging out alone because you two are confortable enough around eachother and then it just happens. You on top of her or her on top of you, whatever it doesnt matter.
The talking after the hookup is the most important part becuase you have to explain to her clearly the rules of engagment if she wants to continue this but you cant accually come out and say it like that. She needs to be smart enough to understand whats going on without you saying much.
All you need to make clear is shes just a friend to you but you would love to do it again. and again and again.