Maximus002
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Hey guys. I wondered if I need a certain quantity of experience to be successful with friends with benefits. Cause I don't want to be exclusive again
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Friends with benefits (I'm from Germany idk if that is the right description)
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- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
BackInTheGame78
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This is the wrong forum for this. Moving to Anything Else forum.
BaronOfHair
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None at all is required. Marriage is little more than friends with benefits that's been recognized by the state, and 17 year olds who've never dated anyone but the person their marrying enter into such contracts all the time
SW15
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I disagree. It takes some skill to maintain a woman's emotions to give her "all the feelz" to keep her attracted. It takes some discipline and knowledge of weight training to build a physique to get her physically attracted enough. If she's physically attracted enough, she'll give a man more leeway on behaviors. This is the whole "women make rules for betas but break rules for alphas thing". Knowledge of sexual techniques that will make it more likely she achieves orgasms will also help with this.
I see your point on this. Many men enter into marriage because they like the way the woman looks and want to keep her having sex with him. They feel like they need to do this because women control the access to sex.
Doctor Europeo
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Escalate, dont give exclusivity, rinse & repeat with another girl
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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You have to be extremely immature to believe that.