Maximus002
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Hey guys. I wondered if I need a certain quantity of experience to be successful with friends with benefits. Cause I don't want to be exclusive again
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Friends with benefits (I'm from Germany idk if that is the right description)
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
BackInTheGame78
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This is the wrong forum for this. Moving to Anything Else forum.
BaronOfHair
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None at all is required. Marriage is little more than friends with benefits that's been recognized by the state, and 17 year olds who've never dated anyone but the person their marrying enter into such contracts all the time
SW15
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I disagree. It takes some skill to maintain a woman's emotions to give her "all the feelz" to keep her attracted. It takes some discipline and knowledge of weight training to build a physique to get her physically attracted enough. If she's physically attracted enough, she'll give a man more leeway on behaviors. This is the whole "women make rules for betas but break rules for alphas thing". Knowledge of sexual techniques that will make it more likely she achieves orgasms will also help with this.
I see your point on this. Many men enter into marriage because they like the way the woman looks and want to keep her having sex with him. They feel like they need to do this because women control the access to sex.
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Escalate, dont give exclusivity, rinse & repeat with another girl
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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You have to be extremely immature to believe that.