"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Friends vs. Girls....if friends are more fun...

Babnik

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I met a hot girl last week and I never called her because I have been partying and chilling in NYC the entire week. She called me and I never responded and never called her because my ENTIRE time I have been with GREAAAT FRIENDS!

I was never alone (except for a few hours a day)... this made me not think of the girl.... FORGET ABOUT THIS GIRL. This is not the point of the thread!


Thing I noticed is that I only THINK about girls when I am alone! When I am with friends I could care less.

Question - many girls in college go out so freaking much and are always with friends and they pretty much forget about you like I forgot about that girl!

Those girls are rarely alone to THINK about the guy the met! How do you go around that?!

If they are rarely alone, how do you make them prefer YOU over friends?


For ME personally - I can't ever prefer vagina or girl's company over friends! I just can't. Not nearly as fun. I think it same for girls.

Then comes time when I AM alone and I want them girls and its too late...I never called them.

if it works the same way with girls then the thinking is "Why bother going out with him/her if I already have these great friends around me?!??!?!"

Thats how I think...its probably how they think. How to go around that?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Could be. Sex is great, but it's not the ultimate end-of-the-world thing that it's made out to be. Inevitably, there's some disappointment.
 

Babnik

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Leporello said:
Could be. Sex is great, but it's not the ultimate end-of-the-world thing that it's made out to be. Inevitably, there's some disappointment.
Yeah, but there has to be a way to make them think the other way around...even after the arousal has gone!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Well

To answer the question about how to get a girl to choose you over friends...

Give her all the happiness she gets from hanging with friends with the added bonus of getting a great shag as dessert.

JJ
 

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Well unless your friends can give you mind blowing orgasms, if you're into that kind of thing, you should teach yourself to enjoy the company of beautiful women. Maybe it's not so much that you like the company of the friends you have, but more like you don't think you can have any fun with women.

Think about sex, think about grabbing her ass for no reason and just sucking her tits and ****ing like an animal. Sometimes we need to be inspired to get out there with women and if you think about the sexual possiblities that lay in wake for all the work you put into getting chicks, it will be well worth it.
 

Babnik

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thefonz said:
Well unless your friends can give you mind blowing orgasms, if you're into that kind of thing, you should teach yourself to enjoy the company of beautiful women. Maybe it's not so much that you like the company of the friends you have, but more like you don't think you can have any fun with women.

Think about sex, think about grabbing her ass for no reason and just sucking her tits and ****ing like an animal. Sometimes we need to be inspired to get out there with women and if you think about the sexual possiblities that lay in wake for all the work you put into getting chicks, it will be well worth it.
How to get HER to think the same way though?

I am saying that when you are CONSTANTLY with your friends, your mind doesn't go there at ALL. Same with girls. If you are with friends - your mind is not focused on sex.
 

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Man I had fun with my ex. We were like a couple of kids. =P That's pretty rare to find.
 
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The reason not to get married...

gggg
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You should always have a better time with friends...

You've just got to keep good PR with chicks sometimes... keep them only a phone call away from coming over to your place to fvck when you want to fvck
 

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Like you, I've got a great group of friends and when I'm with them, I don't think about the guys I might be into.

So if you want a girl to still be thinking of you, I guess you've got to give her something to chew on! I remember one guy told me "tell me something about yourself you haven't told anyone else." For the next six days I was consumed with coming up with something good to respond with. If you really like a girl, give her something to look forward to. Give her the promise of hanging out/going somewhere, and tell her it'll be a surprise. Or leave her a note/voicemail telling her to meet you at ____ and show up hungry.

Regardless, girls will be focused on their friends when hanging out with them, but if you give the girl you're interested in something to look forward to, she'll think about you a lot more.
 
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