"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Friendliest/Least Friendly U.S. State you've been to and why

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90% of it has to be the god awful stoplights. There's a lack of freeways so you're doing a lot of city driving and the traffic lights are the worst in the country. Measurably they're the longest.
It's not clear what you're describing here.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It's not clear what you're describing here.
Then let me finish my post goddangit. Referring to the "unique anger" described above.

Board, pls allow posters a 3 minute grace period before responding to posts, thx. :rofl:
 
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90% of it has to be the god awful stoplights. There's a lack of freeways so you're doing a lot of city driving and the traffic lights are the worst in the country. Measurably they're the longest.

Metro Phoenix has a fair amount of freeways. In Arizona, Tucson is worse on a lack of freeways. A lot of Tucson's population lives east and north of Interstate 10. Tucson is more oriented towards city driving.

There is internet chatter about miserable stoplights in Phoenix.

I think the combination of traffic and heat can result in a bad mood and lack of friendliness.
 

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Most of Arizona's population lives in the warmer, lower elevation parts of the state (Phoenix and Tucson).

Northern Arizona has higher elevations and less population. The climate is more temperate. Summers aren't as hot.

The heat isn't the only reason for Arizona's less friendly reputation. Southern hospitality occurs in Alabama, Tennessee, and Louisiana. Those places are hot and humid.



The obesity in that area is bad. I would not find as many women attractive in the Rio Grande Valley.
Northern Arizona, from the relatively few times I've visited, doesn't appear to be as rude.

As for states like Alabama, Louisiana, and Tennessee, they get hot, yeah...but not on the same scale as Arizona. For example, even when you factor in the heat index (with the humidity), I don't think Alabama ever has a Real Feel of 110 as late as October.

I don't mind fatties. And I have a track record of doing reasonably well with Latinas whose English is less than 100%. Perhaps I'd do well in the Rio Grande Valley.
 

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lots of pickup truck drivers here (the faux country all hat no cattle type).
I don't like that type of pickup truck owner.

As for states like Alabama, Louisiana, and Tennessee, they get hot, yeah...but not on the same scale as Arizona. For example, even when you factor in the heat index (with the humidity), I don't think Alabama ever has a Real Feel of 110 as late as October.
Those 110-115 degree days in Phoenix are miserable.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'll attest to that first hand. South Florida has a mix of people, many of whom are from the urban north. The same goes for places like Tampa, the Orlando area, Port St. Lucie, and Port Charlotte. There's a fair number of entitled boomers who live here and there's a relatively high crime rate too state wide, despite the tough on crime attitude. Most people are cool though.

Further north in the deep south, with the exception of Atlanta, people are way nicer in Georgia, Alabama, South Carolina and Tennessee. I went up there a couple of years ago and the friendliness was a culture shock, to the point of me being amused.
I love South Beach Miami. The people are beautiful.
 
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