"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Friend Zone On Purpose? Pivot?

lesmurphy

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There is this girl who I brought home a month ago an slept with on two other occasions within the same week. After about the second time I slept with her I realized I did not like having s ex with her. She is a nice person, but I really don't want to sleep with her anymore. She has been trying to hang out with me and I have been telling her that I have been sick and kindly brlowing her off. Last night she sent me a txt inviting me to an awseome concert tonight. I am going to this show and going to have a great time, but I also want to start putting her in the friend zone so I can start using her as a pivot.

Is there something I can say or do to prevent her from assuming that we will sleep together so I dont look like a total assho!e, or if it is brought up, a polite thing to say?

She has too many hot friends to completly ignore her, I feel like I could use her as a pivot to get to the rest of her friends?

Anyone have this experience before? I want to trade up if that is possible...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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SickAgain

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Buy her a lot of stuff, constantly tell her how beautiful she is, and call her up 10 times a day.
 

lesmurphy

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I dont think that will work, she like me too much...and would be too flattered...maybe, but doesnt tht screw me up for the friends of her?
 

Rex Man

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Simple. Give her the LJBF speech but continue to set stuff up with her. Interject a DJ friend (you've got one, right?) to pull her. (Assuming she doesn't look like death)

Keep your vow of not smurfing her and by the time your friend does you should be pivoting like a trapped Larry Bird.
 

lesmurphy

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RexMan I like your Larry Bird simile. So as far as the LJBF speech, do I say it just like that...I think we should just be friends, or code it?

I live in a new place so I don't have too many friends yet, but I think I can pawn her off somehow to one of the people I know or to a random wing I find at a bar when I am with her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jaxon

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Dude you already f*cked her, there's no chance in turning her into a friend now, at least not one that will help you to get women. Move along, move along.
 
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