"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It's like this: she's my sister's friend and lately she's developed into my friend also and i dig her big time , thing is i don't know how to let it out without appearing as if i'm taking advantage of the situation, i could use yo tips if it was possible but i can't coz i'm always at work coz i'm an IT consultant and yu know how it is with us guys. so i need another method, something similar but that fits in to my schedule or if yu can tell me how i can make her feelings for me grow without doing the "fun" stuff coz i usually see her in the evening when i go to collect my puppy coz she's dog sitting. please help i really need to be a part of her. the fone could do me just fine coz i call her almost daily but i need to know how to say it without sounding stupid.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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A few tips...

Seeing as you phone her almost daily, why not ask her to go somewhere with you? Dinner, movie, your house, etc... If she is interested in you, she will not object, if she isn’t, she will make up some excuse which will let u know that she isn’t interested... chicks like guys that have balls, and u need to have the balls to ask her out on a date..... I mean... if u are having so much trouble asking this girl on a date, how much trouble will u have kissing her? or even having sex with her? ... You need to realise, that if u just wait and analyze etc, ,you are just wasting time and delaying the inevitable, and risking another guy sweeping her off her feet... you only live this life once man, don’t waste it wondering what COULD be, and ACT, and SEE what will happen. I think she should get the hint that u kinda like her by the fact that u phone her nearly daily (which by the way is also not the greatest of idea's, it gets too much... try cut it down a little) ... so just pop the question, and see what she has to say about it... and remember, BE CONFIDENT, cause if you are not, she will notice, and that’s a big turnoff for a girl.

Good Luck...


Laterz...
 

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Got the girl!

Update: Did exactly as yu said, gripped on my balls and asked her out for a movie, she said it's okay. we went there and had a good time on our way back guess what she asked me? if i was interested in more than just a friendship with her! so i told her the obvious and wham! we now a thang. it turned out she was already interested in me from the start it was only my hesitation that was stalling thingz. the part yu said about another guy sweeping her off her feet really got me going. thanks a lot man i don't know how i could have overcome my fears
 

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wooohooo!

This is great:) Nice dude... I'm happy for you.... always a pleasure helping a fellow dj out;) ...

Best of luck with her:up:


Laterz...
 

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Show up at her door with 2 or 3 boxes of condoms of different types/brands, and tell her you need help trying them on to see which kind fits best.

:cheer:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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There she hoez

Guess wat guyz? the chick told me yesterday she wanted someone who was "serious" then she went on askin me if there was any chance that i had another hoe elsewhere (i've got 2 already), when i told her i didn't have any she went on to ask why, and i told her it was probly coz of my work. she then said it was ok and warned me not to play on her! i don't know if she got all this from her friends but it really ticked me off although i didn't show it.

yo, Heart n' Soul, that some seriously funny sht man!:crackup:
 
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B!itch test!

hahaha.. she pulled a b!tch test on you... and you passed, well done:D .... She is just making 100% sure that you arent gonna playb her and hurt her, and u did fine, so its all good, shweet;)


Laterz...
 

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There she hoez again

I talked to the chick on the fone just a few hrs ago and it seems her attitude has kinda changed, she's no longer the funny and loveable person i fell in ove with, everything now all seems serious and sht.even her tone has changed, coz before she used to talk on the fone with a very nice, even arousing tone, kinda like we was having fone sex, but now it's different and i'm getting pssed. do chicks change their attitude when yu get out of the friend zone? i want my friend back. what do i do to get thingz goin on like before?:confused:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think your talking **** it all sounds made up. You change your mind every second you remind mr of my ex girlfriend actually your remind me of most females.
 

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Hey!

Dude, i'm serious, why the fcuk would i make it up? isn't it we supposed to be helpin each other's asses out?
 

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helpin each other's asses out?
HaHaHaHa

You sound like a female
1)oh i like her should i ask her out
2)Omg she said yes i love her
3)even though i love her i lied to her and said im not seeing any other girls
3)Omg she changed her tone of voice
4)i want my friend back

What suprises me is that she liked you in the first place because you sound like you ***** alot
 

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you took the realationship road now you want her as a friend its not going to happen unless you have a time machine ........DO YOU HAVE A TIME MACHINE?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I think yu misunderstood, i said i wanted her to act "normally" like before, not that i wanted us to be friends again, hell no! i want pvssy like every doggy and there ain't no way i'm gon get that if she's my friend
 

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Originally posted by Black_Italian
you took the realationship road now you want her as a friend its not going to happen unless you have a time machine ........DO YOU HAVE A TIME MACHINE?
We are supposed to help each other out right. Well I have a time machine he can borrow. But only if he'll trade me for a pig.

I think she was probaly having a bad day. Yo have definitly grown too attached. My only advice is that you stop seeing her or whatever you are doing.
 
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