Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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"friend zone" crisis

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It's like this: she's my sister's friend and lately she's developed into my friend also and i dig her big time , thing is i don't know how to let it out without appearing as if i'm taking advantage of the situation, i could use yo tips if it was possible but i can't coz i'm always at work coz i'm an IT consultant and yu know how it is with us guys. so i need another method, something similar but that fits in to my schedule or if yu can tell me how i can make her feelings for me grow without doing the "fun" stuff coz i usually see her in the evening when i go to collect my puppy coz she's dog sitting. please help i really need to be a part of her. the fone could do me just fine coz i call her almost daily but i need to know how to say it without sounding stupid.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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A few tips...

Seeing as you phone her almost daily, why not ask her to go somewhere with you? Dinner, movie, your house, etc... If she is interested in you, she will not object, if she isn’t, she will make up some excuse which will let u know that she isn’t interested... chicks like guys that have balls, and u need to have the balls to ask her out on a date..... I mean... if u are having so much trouble asking this girl on a date, how much trouble will u have kissing her? or even having sex with her? ... You need to realise, that if u just wait and analyze etc, ,you are just wasting time and delaying the inevitable, and risking another guy sweeping her off her feet... you only live this life once man, don’t waste it wondering what COULD be, and ACT, and SEE what will happen. I think she should get the hint that u kinda like her by the fact that u phone her nearly daily (which by the way is also not the greatest of idea's, it gets too much... try cut it down a little) ... so just pop the question, and see what she has to say about it... and remember, BE CONFIDENT, cause if you are not, she will notice, and that’s a big turnoff for a girl.

Good Luck...


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Got the girl!

Update: Did exactly as yu said, gripped on my balls and asked her out for a movie, she said it's okay. we went there and had a good time on our way back guess what she asked me? if i was interested in more than just a friendship with her! so i told her the obvious and wham! we now a thang. it turned out she was already interested in me from the start it was only my hesitation that was stalling thingz. the part yu said about another guy sweeping her off her feet really got me going. thanks a lot man i don't know how i could have overcome my fears
 
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wooohooo!

This is great:) Nice dude... I'm happy for you.... always a pleasure helping a fellow dj out;) ...

Best of luck with her:up:


Laterz...
 
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Show up at her door with 2 or 3 boxes of condoms of different types/brands, and tell her you need help trying them on to see which kind fits best.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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There she hoez

Guess wat guyz? the chick told me yesterday she wanted someone who was "serious" then she went on askin me if there was any chance that i had another hoe elsewhere (i've got 2 already), when i told her i didn't have any she went on to ask why, and i told her it was probly coz of my work. she then said it was ok and warned me not to play on her! i don't know if she got all this from her friends but it really ticked me off although i didn't show it.

yo, Heart n' Soul, that some seriously funny sht man!:crackup:
 
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B!itch test!

hahaha.. she pulled a b!tch test on you... and you passed, well done:D .... She is just making 100% sure that you arent gonna playb her and hurt her, and u did fine, so its all good, shweet;)


Laterz...
 
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There she hoez again

I talked to the chick on the fone just a few hrs ago and it seems her attitude has kinda changed, she's no longer the funny and loveable person i fell in ove with, everything now all seems serious and sht.even her tone has changed, coz before she used to talk on the fone with a very nice, even arousing tone, kinda like we was having fone sex, but now it's different and i'm getting pssed. do chicks change their attitude when yu get out of the friend zone? i want my friend back. what do i do to get thingz goin on like before?:confused:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think your talking **** it all sounds made up. You change your mind every second you remind mr of my ex girlfriend actually your remind me of most females.
 
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Hey!

Dude, i'm serious, why the fcuk would i make it up? isn't it we supposed to be helpin each other's asses out?
 
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helpin each other's asses out?
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HaHaHaHa

You sound like a female
1)oh i like her should i ask her out
2)Omg she said yes i love her
3)even though i love her i lied to her and said im not seeing any other girls
3)Omg she changed her tone of voice
4)i want my friend back

What suprises me is that she liked you in the first place because you sound like you ***** alot
 
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you took the realationship road now you want her as a friend its not going to happen unless you have a time machine ........DO YOU HAVE A TIME MACHINE?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think yu misunderstood, i said i wanted her to act "normally" like before, not that i wanted us to be friends again, hell no! i want pvssy like every doggy and there ain't no way i'm gon get that if she's my friend
 
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Originally posted by Black_Italian
you took the realationship road now you want her as a friend its not going to happen unless you have a time machine ........DO YOU HAVE A TIME MACHINE?
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We are supposed to help each other out right. Well I have a time machine he can borrow. But only if he'll trade me for a pig.

I think she was probaly having a bad day. Yo have definitly grown too attached. My only advice is that you stop seeing her or whatever you are doing.
 
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