She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
yes but what if you have a crush on herjeffthechef said:you want to them physically..i HIGHLY doubt you know them well enough to really be "in love"..there's no magic way out..but you shouldn't simply think "we're friends. I'm content."
You're overthinking. Wasting time and life.
Meet other girls... If these girls that you're only friends with want to hang out, and you have time, then sure...why not? perhaps you were never in the friend zone...perhaps you will always be..
The point is, who cares? Live your life and don't bother trying to label your status with every girl you meet or know.
what do you consider a crush?FastMen said:yes but what if you have a crush on her
sorry , i mean if you really like her and want to her to be your GFjeffthechef said:what do you consider a crush?
i dont think ive used that word in years...perhaps a decade
and none of my friends use it so i'm not sure
your desire will lead to your failure.FastMen said:sorry , i mean if you really like her and want to her to be your GF
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
yes i appreciate your reply, thats what i did once about 3 years ago but in the end lookin good dont gets you a girfriend it will shure help a LOT but as men i think we need a strong personality, but not fake, also, the advice you give is great,jeffthechef said:your desire will lead to your failure.
here's something i learned/always say on this forum...
work on yourself rather than try to attract girls that you "really like".
you can want her to be your gf all you want, but in the end, she will decide whether or not she wants to fill that position in your life.
and how will she decide? not based off of some technique that so many high school kids seek...she will consider your physical appearance, which you can easily work on...by lifting weights, running, brushing your teeth, taking showers, etc...she will consider how fun it is being with you...perhaps whether or not you can keep a good conversation going..perhaps she would like "intelligent" conversation...and the list goes on
so what if you have a crush on a girl?...you do as i mentioned earlier...you live your life. If you're "the catch," she'll want you.
Dont go trying to attract girls with technique. BE YOURSELF. Yes, be yourself. But remember to keep improving who you are in every aspect.