You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
yes but what if you have a crush on herjeffthechef said:you want to them physically..i HIGHLY doubt you know them well enough to really be "in love"..there's no magic way out..but you shouldn't simply think "we're friends. I'm content."
You're overthinking. Wasting time and life.
Meet other girls... If these girls that you're only friends with want to hang out, and you have time, then sure...why not? perhaps you were never in the friend zone...perhaps you will always be..
The point is, who cares? Live your life and don't bother trying to label your status with every girl you meet or know.
what do you consider a crush?FastMen said:yes but what if you have a crush on her
sorry , i mean if you really like her and want to her to be your GFjeffthechef said:what do you consider a crush?
i dont think ive used that word in years...perhaps a decade
and none of my friends use it so i'm not sure
your desire will lead to your failure.FastMen said:sorry , i mean if you really like her and want to her to be your GF
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
yes i appreciate your reply, thats what i did once about 3 years ago but in the end lookin good dont gets you a girfriend it will shure help a LOT but as men i think we need a strong personality, but not fake, also, the advice you give is great,jeffthechef said:your desire will lead to your failure.
here's something i learned/always say on this forum...
work on yourself rather than try to attract girls that you "really like".
you can want her to be your gf all you want, but in the end, she will decide whether or not she wants to fill that position in your life.
and how will she decide? not based off of some technique that so many high school kids seek...she will consider your physical appearance, which you can easily work on...by lifting weights, running, brushing your teeth, taking showers, etc...she will consider how fun it is being with you...perhaps whether or not you can keep a good conversation going..perhaps she would like "intelligent" conversation...and the list goes on
so what if you have a crush on a girl?...you do as i mentioned earlier...you live your life. If you're "the catch," she'll want you.
Dont go trying to attract girls with technique. BE YOURSELF. Yes, be yourself. But remember to keep improving who you are in every aspect.