"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Friend who's a girl is very upset

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i think i have to go with wyldfire on this one guys, I mean, I have one real woman friend (who I am not attracted to).

you are confusing being friends for being AFC. You can be a friend and not be a chump, as long as you don't put her in front of the things that are important to you in your life.

Now, a woman will NEVER be my BEST friend, because i only trust women to a certain extent.. I mean, they are women.

Now, if you are friends with the girl and you are being AFC then she probably sin't going to be attracted to you, but if you are a DJ the entire time (not to her, just in general, being a man) then she won't see you as a nother woman friend, which is pretty much how women view AFC guys who want to be friends.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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