"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Friend has hot sister!?!?
- Thread starter southpark
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
skinnydart
Master Don Juan
AC/DC
Master Don Juan
Yes, but on the flip side... if something goes bad between you and his sister, its:
1) going to be awkward whenever you come over
2) going to make things different between you and him
3) going to make him feel like you go to his house for action instead of to see him.
Then again, if him and his friend were friends, he should understand that he's overprotective and his sister is off limits.
Make a choice man. Out of experience, it'd be way better off if you never knew him and just met her, but you do know him and a lot of bad things can come out of this.
If he's just a casual friend and you don't really care about him, make the move.
But if he's a really good friend, he might get a little upset that his friend is moving in on his defenseless sister, especially if you talk to him about your moves on the ladies. What might even be worse is if you make the move and she rejects you. Then you lose both ways. You can always use "Bros over hos," but that's a little outplayed. You seem committed, so if you want, you should just go for it and risk losing a friend.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
PiHiPlaya
Master Don Juan
I think that's also rule number 8 of Tom Leykis's or Cigar Dave's Man Rules, i can't remember which one
DJBen
Master Don Juan
Theres plenty of other hot birds around, go get one of those
jonny football hero
Master Don Juan
BTW, the rules:
1) you don't mess around with a mates relative
2) you don't mess around with a mates ex (until he cleared it)
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
assassin
Don Juan
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
....but you have indirectly found a great tool for revenge.
Patrick124
Master Don Juan
lolidiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
Lemme borrow this thread for a second....
What if a teacher had a hot daughter? Keep in mind, you hate this teacher's guts.
All signals go?
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
CadillacCTS
Don Juan
jiza101
Master Don Juan
Don Corleone
Don Juan
dude just talk to him. if you can get him to let you date her, then you can tell your mom that your sleeping at your friends house...then sneek into her room and you can have a sleepover with her instead
keep pimpin
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.