"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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friend got mugged...feel like sh*t

Alright...so I was visiting a few friends at college...and we were at a party having a good time. A few friends and I decided to leave to get ice cream..and one of my girl friends calls me and wants to meet up (she was at the party too...shes a girl that i know i can get with i just need the oppertunity with her alone) ...and she ended up coming to the ice cream shop. I told her that ill come to her dorm after i go to my campus and pick up my roomate. She says alright..and that she would be at a few friends appartment(they were guys)

So i go pick up my roomate...on my way back I call her and tell her to come back to her dorm..i asked her if she wanted me to pick her up twice..said that shes fine both times and that she;ll be at the dorm in 5 minutes. I call her again a few minutes later..she says shes right down the street and she'll be there soon.

A few minutes later she calls me CRYING and tells me that she just got mugged by two black guys...i run over to where she was (about a block away form the dorm) and one of her friends is already there comforting her. I stayed out there with them for about a half hour(campus security and cops were there) Turns out the robbers threw her to the ground..took her wallet and left.

So basicallly right now i feel like crap...i shouldnt have let her walk alone...even tho its not fully my fault..i cant help but feel a bit responsible..any thoughs of how to handle this situtaion? what do i say when i call her tomorrow??
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Re: friend got mugged...feel like sh*t

Originally posted by dip
Alright...so I was visiting a few friends at college...and we were at a party having a good time. A few friends and I decided to leave to get ice cream..and one of my girl friends calls me and wants to meet up (she was at the party too...shes a girl that i know i can get with i just need the oppertunity with her alone) ...and she ended up coming to the ice cream shop. I told her that ill come to her dorm after i go to my campus and pick up my roomate. She says alright..and that she would be at a few friends appartment(they were guys)

So i go pick up my roomate...on my way back I call her and tell her to come back to her dorm..i asked her if she wanted me to pick her up twice..said that shes fine both times and that she;ll be at the dorm in 5 minutes. I call her again a few minutes later..she says shes right down the street and she'll be there soon.

A few minutes later she calls me CRYING and tells me that she just got mugged by two black guys...i run over to where she was (about a block away form the dorm) and one of her friends is already there comforting her. I stayed out there with them for about a half hour(campus security and cops were there) Turns out the robbers threw her to the ground..took her wallet and left.

So basicallly right now i feel like crap...i shouldnt have let her walk alone...even tho its not fully my fault..i cant help but feel a bit responsible..any thoughs of how to handle this situtaion? what do i say when i call her tomorrow??
It isnt your fault, so stop freakin, you say whatever you usually say to stupid people, you tell them it happens.
 

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We get muggings on campus all the time, so our uni installed a security bus. You should petition your school to do the same. Basically a small bus that drives around the uni at specific times (ie. every 30mins after 8PM). Unless the muggers have machineguns or something...
 

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f*ck u racist BlTCHES! :cuss:

why couldn't you just say 2 guys mugged her. WTF does it matter what race it was, does it make it any worse?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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why should i hide the truth? thats not called being racist you ignorant bastard
 

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Originally posted by dip
why should i hide the truth? thats not called being racist you ignorant bastard
stfu! they would'a probably kicked your ass too if it makes you feel any better.:)
 

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dont blame yourself, **** happens.

Well would it make you feel better if you were there and got shot while defending her?

no point wimpering over the past and regretting it. move on
 

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i think you should talk her into taking one of those classes for ladies to learn self defense in case of something like that
 

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you wouldn't have been able to help her had you been there anyway.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by penkitten
i think you should talk her into taking one of those classes for ladies to learn self defense in case of something like that
Self-defense please no matter how good she gets there is no way a woman is going to take on two men at the same time.
 

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Actually, dont girls nowadays carry pepper spray?
 

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Originally posted by Emperiorjack
Self-defense please no matter how good she gets there is no way a woman is going to take on two men at the same time.
you never know
 

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Meeeh she probably made it up anyway, b!tch is probably well aware crying rape is played out nowadays, so shes settling for the next best thing.

Bingo!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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