"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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friend got mugged...feel like sh*t

Alright...so I was visiting a few friends at college...and we were at a party having a good time. A few friends and I decided to leave to get ice cream..and one of my girl friends calls me and wants to meet up (she was at the party too...shes a girl that i know i can get with i just need the oppertunity with her alone) ...and she ended up coming to the ice cream shop. I told her that ill come to her dorm after i go to my campus and pick up my roomate. She says alright..and that she would be at a few friends appartment(they were guys)

So i go pick up my roomate...on my way back I call her and tell her to come back to her dorm..i asked her if she wanted me to pick her up twice..said that shes fine both times and that she;ll be at the dorm in 5 minutes. I call her again a few minutes later..she says shes right down the street and she'll be there soon.

A few minutes later she calls me CRYING and tells me that she just got mugged by two black guys...i run over to where she was (about a block away form the dorm) and one of her friends is already there comforting her. I stayed out there with them for about a half hour(campus security and cops were there) Turns out the robbers threw her to the ground..took her wallet and left.

So basicallly right now i feel like crap...i shouldnt have let her walk alone...even tho its not fully my fault..i cant help but feel a bit responsible..any thoughs of how to handle this situtaion? what do i say when i call her tomorrow??
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

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Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Re: friend got mugged...feel like sh*t

Originally posted by dip
Alright...so I was visiting a few friends at college...and we were at a party having a good time. A few friends and I decided to leave to get ice cream..and one of my girl friends calls me and wants to meet up (she was at the party too...shes a girl that i know i can get with i just need the oppertunity with her alone) ...and she ended up coming to the ice cream shop. I told her that ill come to her dorm after i go to my campus and pick up my roomate. She says alright..and that she would be at a few friends appartment(they were guys)

So i go pick up my roomate...on my way back I call her and tell her to come back to her dorm..i asked her if she wanted me to pick her up twice..said that shes fine both times and that she;ll be at the dorm in 5 minutes. I call her again a few minutes later..she says shes right down the street and she'll be there soon.

A few minutes later she calls me CRYING and tells me that she just got mugged by two black guys...i run over to where she was (about a block away form the dorm) and one of her friends is already there comforting her. I stayed out there with them for about a half hour(campus security and cops were there) Turns out the robbers threw her to the ground..took her wallet and left.

So basicallly right now i feel like crap...i shouldnt have let her walk alone...even tho its not fully my fault..i cant help but feel a bit responsible..any thoughs of how to handle this situtaion? what do i say when i call her tomorrow??
It isnt your fault, so stop freakin, you say whatever you usually say to stupid people, you tell them it happens.
 

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We get muggings on campus all the time, so our uni installed a security bus. You should petition your school to do the same. Basically a small bus that drives around the uni at specific times (ie. every 30mins after 8PM). Unless the muggers have machineguns or something...
 

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f*ck u racist BlTCHES! :cuss:

why couldn't you just say 2 guys mugged her. WTF does it matter what race it was, does it make it any worse?
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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why should i hide the truth? thats not called being racist you ignorant bastard
 

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Originally posted by dip
why should i hide the truth? thats not called being racist you ignorant bastard
stfu! they would'a probably kicked your ass too if it makes you feel any better.:)
 

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dont blame yourself, **** happens.

Well would it make you feel better if you were there and got shot while defending her?

no point wimpering over the past and regretting it. move on
 

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i think you should talk her into taking one of those classes for ladies to learn self defense in case of something like that
 

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you wouldn't have been able to help her had you been there anyway.
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by penkitten
i think you should talk her into taking one of those classes for ladies to learn self defense in case of something like that
Self-defense please no matter how good she gets there is no way a woman is going to take on two men at the same time.
 

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Actually, dont girls nowadays carry pepper spray?
 

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Originally posted by Emperiorjack
Self-defense please no matter how good she gets there is no way a woman is going to take on two men at the same time.
you never know
 

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Meeeh she probably made it up anyway, b!tch is probably well aware crying rape is played out nowadays, so shes settling for the next best thing.

Bingo!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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