"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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What's the deal with dating girls that are the free spirit type?

Any experiences/advice you can share?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Free spirit means everything goes for these kinds of girls, meaning they more promiscuous. God and angels will be just another excuse to try different c0cks. Never be serious with them. Do you think they will be loyal on their trip to Bali to 'find themselves'? Groupies will be a part of 'connecting with the universe'.
 
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From my experience it means an inability to pair-bond. They just can't catch feelings for a guy. Too them, becoming emotionally invested means losing their freedom.... even if their partner isn't controlling and gives them plenty of space and room, they are afraid of their OWN feelings of love and attachment, so they deliberately prevent themselves from catching feelings, and if they feel themselves starting to, they quickly move-on. Most of them have an avoidant attachment style. I'm sure these woman can span a spectrum, but the ones I have met who are like this are all closer to the narcissistic side of the scale - very high self-confidence. The ones I have met also have an incredible zest and enthusiasm for life which is extremely contagious and increases their value to you, and when you combine that with the challenge they present through their aloofness, it can cause you to pedestalize them which is the absolute worst possible thing you could do with a woman like this. I have also noticed that their zest for life and their outward happiness tends to conceal an underlying void of lack of identity - they don't know who or what they are and are constantly searching outward and inward to find it, which is why they keep moving on and moving around. They haven't been able to find themselves and don't know who they are, but they keep seeking it out unsuccessfully.

Getting involved with a girl like this should be left to men who are honest with themselves about two things:
1. That they do not and will not want a relationship and genuinely only want a plate/sex for a period of time
2. That they won't catch feelings for her
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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L16 said:
What's the deal with dating girls that are the free spirit type?

Any experiences/advice you can share?
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Some women pretend to be slutty to attract attention and collect orbiters, but in fact rarely put out. Honey traps.

The real sluts are often low key and know how to be discreet. If you come across as stiff and judgemental, they'll probably avoid you.
 
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Have fun, keep things light, enjoy it while it lasts, and remember; 'birds of a feather stick together'.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Haha had one of these types giving the goo men gone speech at a work do right after she announced that women made better managers. Govt shop so of course plenty of simps agreed. She s in her 40s and still has a laundry list of reqs. Luck with that lady.
 
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Just do not marry or LTR a free spirit. Otherwise have fun. Simple. Why is everyone so pessimistic about them? Get over the fact that they're carousel riders and use it to ur advantage... If she is a free spirit, that's perfect! That means she is ready for a ride!
 
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Why is the general consensus not to date them and they're in general not good partners?

I'm sizing up the one I've been hanging out with and she has a few long term relationships in her past. Makes me think she's not such bad relationship material?
 
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Free spirits are usually poor LTRs, proceed with knowledge that you are probably entering feminist/mental-issues territory...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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