"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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roja

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if you make new friend(s) who are AFC ,
Dont give free advice ,unless they ask for it

They believe in their old beliefs
They have to seek and willing to work/change
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Deadly_Ripped

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If you're not AFC, and your friends are, then you may also want to reconsider how much time you are spending with them. Every minute you spend with someone whom you deem not worthwhile is a minute wasted and a minute that you'll regret on your deathbed.
 

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Deadly_Ripped said:
If you're not AFC, and your friends are, then you may also want to reconsider how much time you are spending with them. Every minute you spend with someone whom you deem not worthwhile is a minute wasted and a minute that you'll regret on your deathbed.
great point
 

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Wish it was mine but there was a link on here a while ago to some free lecture videos by some balding and slightly overweight polygamist guy and that was a major point of his intro. The same applies to women you invite into your life.

I always offer insight to my friends because I was offered this website in 2001 and it changed my life drastically. If they decline I rarely press the issue, though.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It depends... Are you sitting in front of your computer all day trying to learn as much as you possibly can, or are you using the basics and making your own life? If you are actually using it, approaching in front of your friends, hanging with hot girls, etc. they will naturally ask for advice and want to be more like you. If you mostly act like them but somehow feel 'enlightened' for finding a site like this, yeah don't bother.

I have a couple of friends who are asking me stuff now, they would explain a situation, I would listen, then point out what I thought the problem was (or will be if they are about to do something stupid) and suggest if it doesn't/didn't work, then next time try my way. 'Hey look what happened when I did as you suggested!' Surprise.
 
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