"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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if you make new friend(s) who are AFC ,
Dont give free advice ,unless they ask for it

They believe in their old beliefs
They have to seek and willing to work/change
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you're not AFC, and your friends are, then you may also want to reconsider how much time you are spending with them. Every minute you spend with someone whom you deem not worthwhile is a minute wasted and a minute that you'll regret on your deathbed.
 
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Deadly_Ripped said:
If you're not AFC, and your friends are, then you may also want to reconsider how much time you are spending with them. Every minute you spend with someone whom you deem not worthwhile is a minute wasted and a minute that you'll regret on your deathbed.
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Wish it was mine but there was a link on here a while ago to some free lecture videos by some balding and slightly overweight polygamist guy and that was a major point of his intro. The same applies to women you invite into your life.

I always offer insight to my friends because I was offered this website in 2001 and it changed my life drastically. If they decline I rarely press the issue, though.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It depends... Are you sitting in front of your computer all day trying to learn as much as you possibly can, or are you using the basics and making your own life? If you are actually using it, approaching in front of your friends, hanging with hot girls, etc. they will naturally ask for advice and want to be more like you. If you mostly act like them but somehow feel 'enlightened' for finding a site like this, yeah don't bother.

I have a couple of friends who are asking me stuff now, they would explain a situation, I would listen, then point out what I thought the problem was (or will be if they are about to do something stupid) and suggest if it doesn't/didn't work, then next time try my way. 'Hey look what happened when I did as you suggested!' Surprise.
 
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