"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm having some major issues with getting it up with my girlfriend. We've been able to have sex before multiple times but everyonce in a while I just can't get hard. Recently we've tried 3 times and nothing. I even tried doing it by myself in the shower and it didn't really work. So I'm starting to freak out. Everything points to performance anxiety but nothing really helps in getting rid of it. What should I have thinking in my head when were going to have sex. How do I fully relax? Is there anything to take?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The more you freak out the worse it will get. The more pressure the less performance.

If you don't work out, get in some good exericse to burn off some of that anxiety, boost your testoterone and to produce some endorphins.

Try to stay relaxed during the day. Do some meditation if you are into that. Or have some quiet relaxing time everyday.

Stay in the moment when you are with her...slow down and calm down...do extended foreplay..take your time and enjoy her. Only think about the things you can see, smell and touch...drop all the other fears and thoughts out of your mind. It's fear and overthinking that's killing your boner now. Enjoy the moment...think of the positive things, how good she looks, how she smells, how good its gonna feel to bone this chic.

I'm sure some other guys can pitch in with some good advice.
 
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