Leah
Don Juan
I wonder if she really did have an STD or if your ex was just being bitter? This HB sounds a bit slutty to me, I think you had a lucky escape 
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'll have to remember that. Good FR.This is basically my little theory - based on the kinetic interactions i have with my pet dog...Hell NO!! Guys - i mean petting her you psychos!! - if i stroke her for say 30 seconds, then take away my hand - she will claw at me and bite at me to stroke her again - attention seeking if you will - i apply the same basic principle to women :-
- Going in for a kiss -then pulling away at the last moment
= She grabs my head and pulls me in for a kiss - RESIST!! Kiss her on your own terms.
- Holding her hips and then taking your hands away
= She'll grab your hands and put them back - RESIST!! Take them off and put them somewhere else.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Lol, that happened to me twice... once I was so flustered I choked... the second time I was like "sure" and she really wanted to, despite that I doubted it.Originally posted by The_Shezzler
Me neither until Friday night![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.