You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Pretty sh*tty approach there.I sit down by these two girls at lunch...
Me: So what'd you do this weekend?
Girl: Nothing.
Me: Well I basically just...
[Then I tell her what I did during weekend]
Blah blah...
Me: So what'd she do during her weekend?
Girl: She's tired.
Me: Ah, she did a lot of romping this weekend...
Girl: What I can't understand you.
Me: Oh, I said she did a lot of romping this weekend.
Girl: What! No. Look I have to go to library.
[Then the chicks leave]
So that was that interaction.So I'm at lunch and I talk to the typical chicks there, mainly Rebecca and Lindsey and this is how that sh*t went.
- For the first part of the lunch period I was just sitting there, but then I decided to go up to these chicks.
Then at first the convo really go so well, but then the set sort of opened up. Can't really remember the specifics but I'll tell you what I can remember.
- At one point I'm just touching Lindsey and she eventually started to touch me back.
- In one part of the interaction, I'm just touching Rebecca constantly and she's like "Why are you touching me?". Blah blah, she eventually starts to go off "I mean it would be okay if you could just give me one good reason for touching me". Course' being me I just plow through that sh*t and keep touching her anyway.
- I was roleplaying with the girls at one point in the conversation where I basically said "I'll have to confiscate these boots, see miss I'm with the police department and I need to confiscate those boots" and both of the girls where laughing at it.
- At one point, once the set had opened, I was like "So what'd you do this weekend, mam?" to Lindsey and she didn't really reply and then Rebecca asked "What did you do over your weekend?" and things expanded off of that.
- One point in the interaction, I'm like just playing with Rebecca and getting all close to her and Lindsey's like "Why don't you give her a kiss on the lips?" and ofcourse I was like "No" and acted all grossed about it and moved back.
- So towards the end of the set the girls seemed interested, but then they did this where they kicked my seat back and one girl said "You're too close to us". Why'd they do it? Who knows, hah and franky, who cares.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Because they thought you were creepy and they werent interested...they kicked my seat back and one girl said "You're too close to us". Why'd they do it?
...lolCourse' being me I just plow through that sh*t and keep touching her anyway
Why didn't you?- One point in the interaction, I'm like just playing with Rebecca and getting all close to her and Lindsey's like "Why don't you give her a kiss on the lips?" and ofcourse I was like "No" and acted all grossed about it and moved back.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
He still could have used that comment to his advantage instead of simply saying noGrand Wizzard Alamar said:Good job ElStud, I'm lovin them new approaches.
Oh btw it was actually right to say no to the kiss thing because if he had said yes he'd look like even more of a loser.
Props for that.
No he could not have becuase.. well.. IT NEVER HAPPENEDBannedGod said:He still could have used that comment to his advantage instead of simply saying no
Which is why one of the girls where flirting with me and they were giving me IOI's(Asking questions and sh1t). Yeah, there's a good reason you're ignored HandyAndy. There's a chance they WHERE interested at first and just lost interest. Who knows, who cares. I go in there with the mindset of simply testing a bunch of stuff until the girls blow me out.Because they thought you were creepy and they werent interested...
"Loser" you seem to know a lot about me man. You a stalker or something? Then shush. Until you actually sit down and talk with me or anyone else you have NO right to call anyone a loser. Especially when you're a troll notorius as yourself. I can just as easily say you're a fat, gay crossdresser, because I'm saying sh1t about you without knowing you.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:Good job ElStud, I'm lovin them new approaches.
Oh btw it was actually right to say no to the kiss thing because if he had said yes he'd look like even more of a loser.
Props for that.
But how so man? Any AFC could say "You're doing it wrong". HOW am I doing it wrong? lol I know the first one sucked, but the girls where interested at one point in the second one, but I still know I screwed that one up.ChrizZ said:El Stud, you are doing it wrong.
Read My FR Journal (it's in my sig) to understand how to have good solid interactions and PM if you have questions.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.