Luke Skywalker
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I'll take my chances.rocky_mtn said:Luke, if you're playing all sorts of tricks, or techniques, or games or whatever you want to call them, then expect to get some back.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I'll take my chances.rocky_mtn said:Luke, if you're playing all sorts of tricks, or techniques, or games or whatever you want to call them, then expect to get some back.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
See man, now ditch that ESP stuff, she would like YOU if you would stop hiding behind a persona. Allow yourself to run free, be filled with the passion of what YOU want out of life. If you like this woman, instead of worrying about what you said, why not think about what you want to do TO her. Let all your sexual ideas flood your mind, and then let it manifest when you are with her. I guarantee it will slow down your speech, but an interesting smile on your face, and keep on eye contact.Luke Skywalker said:Third date -- pat myself on the back for attempting a kiss-close twice on the date.
Some stuff went out of my mouth which I regret - such as saying "I'm playing the field" when she asked me what I'm looking for implying just casual relationships or something, but, she was actually quite nice with me, and even told me, not to use the Polar Bear pick up line because it sucks. I think that maybe I can really be myself around her as she's not seeing me with a critical eye like the others.
NO KISS CLOSE WAS EVER ATTEMPTED IN MY WHOLE LIFE --- FIRST ATTEMPT IN 30 YEARS !!!!! FIRST TIME I HAD THE BALLS TO GO FOR IT.
FIRST KISS CLOSE ATTEMPT:
---> Asked her what was the craziest thing she's ever done? She told me she got drunk. She asked me what the craziest thing I ever done was? I told her to close her eyes and I'll tell her. She said she cant keep them closed because she doesn't trust me, and is scared of what I may do while her eyes are closed.
There went the first kiss close attempt.
SECOND KISS CLOSE ATTEMPT:
----> She suggested a hug. And this time, I asked her for a kiss, and she told me 'eventually'. This is a 'delayed' yes' by the books, and was relieved thta she didn't say the dreaded line "Let's just be friends".
I think there is a genuine bond between us, and dont think it's going to collapse like the others, so this is potential LTR or something.
I'm thinking of writing an email to clarify myself on 'playing the field', was meant to be socialising and meeting new people. Why the heck do stupid things come from my mouth --- well she wasn't visibly offended or she wouldn't have hugged me.
I disclosed the 'suprize' was a kiss. Had that up my sleeve - thought it would work - after all, I did the cube routine and got her to visualize, and she closed her eyes.
I cut the date short -- as is my own policy of coffee dates - the longer it is, the more likely to say something stupid and your not in a seductive environment. She dug the ESP tests, and the other tests, and we seemed to have a bit of fun.
Had to try it once on someone.pooparu said:See man, now ditch that ESP stuff, she would like YOU if you would stop hiding behind a persona.
Just a nasty c&b from another date, I've had some nasty experiences of getting blown off on statements, ok, this has led me to be a bit paranoid.pooparu said:Allow yourself to run free, be filled with the passion of what YOU want out of life. If you like this woman, instead of worrying about what you said, why not think about what you want to do TO her.
This is the gunwitch model. I did talk to her about 'crazy things', so I thought adventure, crazy, and that stuff was interrelated.pooparu said:Let all your sexual ideas flood your mind, and then let it manifest when you are with her. I guarantee it will slow down your speech, but an interesting smile on your face, and keep on eye contact.
So this works eh, ok, I'll look into it. Thanks pal.pooparu said:In fact, I must say that now that I read gunwitch he is right, its about sexualizing yourself. Here's what this all really breaks down to:
1. Meet
2. Let your sexuality manifest itself.
3. Succeed.
Raw, animal sexuality that comes across to a woman as a powerful presence will get her turned on, she WILL want you, and you won't have to say any negs or C+F or whatever.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Most jobs want a guy that already has related job exerience. Granted, I haven't been consistently sending out resumes or going to job agencies, but if felt that it would be some of dead-end if I tried.skip2mylou781 said:Luke....how is it possible that u havent been able to find a job with a college diploma for almost 10 years???
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
roelplay i guess, but sounds like hes testing iois to me, if she goes along with it its an ioi.Luke Skywalker said:I've been thinking of the TD style and where I went wrong on this particular kiss close (other than the fact she wasn't ready for it today).
TD would tell the girl that he loves her, and see if she responds that she loves him back, and then make a marriage proposal to her --- then he says just close your eyes -- he works on the trust component by mentioning 'love' getting her to say she loves him back, and makes a mock marriage proposal.