"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FR, kinda, Update on the one I thought I ruined, May be back in it

TheBaconator

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This is an update to the post i put up a couple days ago about how I totally fed it up with a sure thing by talkin to her wasted.

So I go to the store yest to pickup a steak with a prepared note

"Guess I shoulda stuck with texts. I can't say I member what I said the other nite, but i'm sure I wasn't pleasant. So just wanted to apologize for my drunkness. Sry if I was a duche".

I get on her line and say hi and she smiles and says something about kindey stones and she has to tlk to me. So i'm thinkin that mite be why no call back.

So as I pay I slip the note and she is surprised and has a big smile and laugh, slips it her pocket and then says "no beers tonight", I reply "maybe I learned my lesson w/ a laugh" and her "maybe w/ a grin". I leave.

She didn't text me or anything later but I'm thinking she still has interest. So worst case if she don't hit me up ill hit it up in 4-5 days and suggest a date.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hang in there bro, she aint quit on you yet. Good idea making a joke out of it. be patient
 
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