That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yeah man that b1tch was crazy. The 1st story was beleivable... "I got in a wreck on the way, etc.. Called me etc. But man...when she broke out with the "my ex boyfriend just showed up... I'll call you back...then calls back a few hours late saying "i can't come..he cut me with a knife..." I was like..uh yeah right. Later.Originally posted by Mr. Delicious
Thanks for the story scorch about your friend who got stood up and one of the reasons was that her ex boyfriend stabbed her :crackup: That made me feel better about this situation. haha
No!Originally posted by Inc. ©
You don't have to give up on this chick. I mean you can still talk with her on the phone. Try to bang her I say. Just call her up when you're bored or something. That's what I'll do sometimes...just call up flaky chicks when I'm really bored and see if they're up for anything. Make her come to you of course.
I agree. The best thing to do is leave this girl alone. She is obviously confused. The only exception is that if the girl comes over to his house through her own efforts just for sex.Originally posted by Mazeman11
No!
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I didn't figured it out from what you said you did. I figured it out from the way you write. If your AFCness shows in your writing, then I bet it also shows in the way you talk and act.Originally posted by Mr. Delicious
I know, I have been acting AFC with this one. Usually I dont. Usually if i get stood up one time then i am done.