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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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FR: Elevator in my apt. complex (seeking analysis)

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I was in my workout clothes (shorts,sleeveless shirt) as I entered the elevator going down in my apt. complex. The elevator opens and I see this girl whom I've never seen before. She was dressed like she was either going to a club or on a date. It was about 8:00p.m.

Dialogue and action:

Elevator door opens. She puts her head down (NOT in the "I don't like you" sense, but more in the depressed sense) and moves the back corner of the elevator.

Me: Hey, what are your plans for tonight?
Her: I don't know. I don't have anything planned. What day is it?

puase, she is thinking

Her: Oh, it's saturday. I just haven't been doing my regular thing lately, so I forgot. (Note that she didn't sound like one of those dumb girls. She wasn't talking really fast either. She just seemed kinda in a weird state of mind). Well, I don't have anything planned.

I was smiling at her when she didn't know what day it was.

Me: That's funny that you didn't know the day.

The door opens

Me: Well, I hope you have fun whatever you do tonight.
Her: Smiles and is happy, Thanks

Then I walk out since I got off on the floor above her.

Looking back I think I should have invited her to my place.
I thought maybe her saying that "she doesn't know what she gonna do" and then after that , DESPITE THE WAY SHE WAS DRESSED UP, she was perhaps trying to forgot about her plans that she had because she didn't like them and was hoping I'd change them.

You guys will probably say I'm reading into this too much. But I'm just curious why she was dressed that way and then saying more progressively (3 different times, and stronger, more direct each time) that she wasn't doing anything?

edit: My question is: Was this a come on by her or was it just regular convo.?
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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KiInCollege

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Damn all this thinking and no closing.

Why don't you tell us about how you were second-guessing yourself in the elevator the entire time? All the girl can do is give you some hints. She did and you didn't go for it - there's nothing more to discuss except that you should be disappointed in yourself and use this motivation for next time.
 

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the girl meets you for the first time in an elevator, she doesn't know you from jack the ripper... don't ask her to follow you to your place, but someplace where she will feel more safe, like a public place
 

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lol
i wish we could see more 'field reports' like this. maybe one that took place coming out of the lobby and saying hi to the doorman, or having a chat with the bus driver as one gets off at their stop.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by wolfie
lol
i wish we could see more 'field reports' like this. maybe one that took place coming out of the lobby and saying hi to the doorman, or having a chat with the bus driver as one gets off at their stop.
So I was ready to get off the bus, and I asked her "Could you please stop the bus here?"

AND SHE DID! That must a definite sign of attraction, guys do you think I should have asked her out?
 

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Originally posted by R3N3G4D3
So I was ready to get off the bus, and I asked her "Could you please stop the bus here?"

AND SHE DID! That must a definite sign of attraction, guys do you think I should have asked her out?
no, you should have remained on the bus and banged her after everyone else got off, haven't you learned anything here?
 
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