Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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FR: Disasterous approach. (funny)

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Disasterous approach. (funny)

Thought I would put this in the HS forum since it happened at a hs.

This chick was standing by the doors, waiting for a ride I think. So I started to approach her from behind. Initially from like 30-40 ft away, I thought she was a HB8 so I was like fvck it, I'm going in. Two of my scared sh!tless buddies watched behind some lockers, lol. I go up there and things were already bad when I got within 10 feet. Her body language was giving me a negative vibe + she had on headphones. She went from a HB8 to HB6 cuz her face was not what I expected.

I get up to her, and stood near her at the railings. I made a waving gesture and told her to remove her headphones by acting like I'm removing my (imaginary) headphones. (I actually like this opener that I made up on the spot, comments?)

This is where it started going downhill. We made small talk, exchanged names and grade, but she had this "wtf, gtfo" look. Her tone of voice was less than pleasant. So I just said "it was nice talking to you, I'm gonna get back to my buddies now." and then I left. Total length of convo, 2-3 mins.

Pros:
made up an opener that I actually liked (and didn't use a canned opener that I was gonna use)

Cons:
she seemed to be annoyed from before, during, (and prolly after) the approach.
I didn't know how to react to the negative vibe


Looking back, I think this is more hilarious than anything. Oh well, at least I approached unlike my buddies, heh. (gotta find a positive out of everything)
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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LikRetsam

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What do you expect us to tell you?
 

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Uhh, I dunno... say whatever you want. Just thought I'd fill out a FR on a (humorous) approach, that's all.
 

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This isn't really a field report. This chick wasn't interested.
 

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hmmm just a follow-up:

WHY wasn't the girl interested?

a) his looks?
b) WHAT he talked about during the conversation?
c) a bad day for her?
d) she wasn't interested in talking to strangers?
e) got off of a bad relationship?
f) on a rag?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yeah, it is pretty funny watching people that can't make conversation with a HB6.. 6 gross dude. But don't worry about it like Rocko says. Just keep doin that and practicing until you find what works, it will probably take much longer than you expect, trust me. But don't give up.
 

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Who the **** cares why she wasn't positive? Not interested, or not used to having bums in the street walk up to her.

Good move, chief, when I was 5 I heard crocodiles get their teeth cleaned by birds, so nothing suprises me anymore.

Don't worry bout it, nothing lost really.

The whole imaginary headphones thing is a bit invasive of her, it means "take your headphones out, I'm more important". She might have them in to avoid being spoken to that day or some ****.
 

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kev me723 said:
Yeah, it is pretty funny watching people that can't make conversation with a HB6.. 6 gross dude. But don't worry about it like Rocko says. Just keep doin that and practicing until you find what works, it will probably take much longer than you expect, trust me. But don't give up.

I don't think it woulda made a difference if she was a 3, 6, or 10. Two of my buddies gave her 8 and 8.5, so meh. She didn't meet my personal expectations, that's all.

and yeah, I think it was a lost cause from the get-go, but I wouldn't have known that if I didn't talk to her. And yeah, life definitely goes on... I find this more funny than I do sad. It's a funny story to tell the guys, heh.
 
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