Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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B-Lemond

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We had a school dance tonight. I came in with about 1hr. left in the dance, due to some studying. One of the sets went like this:


I approach a 5 set. I put my arms around two of the girls and

Me: Hey guys, can I get an opinion on something?

Girls: A what?

Me: I need your opinion on something....

Me: (I start looking at each girl as I'm pacing) Why..................do I......................look so good?

Then one of the girls leaves and 3 of them follow her. Now there are only 2 girls there to answer, HB 8.5 and HB6.

At this point HB6 doesn't know how to respond to my ****iness.

HB 8.5: Your not...

Me: What?

HB 8.5: Your....

Me: (I interrupt her) You know what, I'll just let you two think about it. (then I leave)


At the end of the dance as HB 8.5 is leaving. I approach again. (Just like Style says, give that extra 20%)


Me: Hey, let me ask you something....

Me: Why do I look so good.

HB 8.5 : blah blah blah, I don't like your hair.

Me: Isnt' that amazing, we both have something in common. I don't like yours either (and I grab her hair)


One of her friends calls her and she walks away.


I'm not sure if the opener was too ****y or what, but I honestly felt that I could have progress with HB 8.5.

I'm sensing that the only reason she said "your not" was because she had to keep her social status high. Nonetheless, she was smiling the whole time, during the second approach. She was smiling and I know she wanted me. How could I have progressed with her?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LOL you came off as way too damn ****y.

You where just plain stupid if you ask me.
 

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Too ****y
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It only takes a noob to see that you were way too ****y and over exerting yourself on these girls. You got to be confident ****y, not ****y as "I'm so great I'm better than everybody. They wish they were me!"
 

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Originally posted by bluelemond
^ Thanks newbies

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
Who you calling a noob, your the one who ended up looking like a ass
 

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Originally posted by Maybnoob
Who you calling a noob, your the one who ended up looking like a ass
i think he was calling me a noob.
 

Maybnoob

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Originally posted by Logen
i think he was calling me a noob.
Yeah but he said newbie(s) not noob, so he implied all of us
 

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yea he came off way to dam ****y dude u cuda scored that chick but tht was prty dam classic i lyk ur stuff lol:crackup: :rockon:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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funny ass ****. i think i fuked up this post formatting too btw.
 

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^ Thanks Shezz
The only good advice on this thread.

I was going to use the jealous gf opener but I figured why not try something new.


Shezz, you mentinoed meta-frame. What is this meta-frame that you speak of.
 

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Originally posted by The_Shezzler
dont use this opener anymore mate.

I've used this opener before on girls that I already knew and they always come up with an answer. They play along with the question, so when I used this on a set that I didn't know and I got that reaction, I was little surprised...hehe
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Blue elmond, I notice that you only responded positively to comments praising your attempt.

While you showed good confidence and courage, this was quite simply one of the worst openers I have ever heard.

I just don't know what to add, mindbogglingly bad.

I felt embarrassed just reading it.

Cruise the room first and see where you are getting eye contact, then you won't have to resort to tactics that make you look like you are overcompensating for something.

You were probably 100% transparent to those girls.

However, like I said, it took balls opening that 5-set, just tone it down a little. It sounds like you were fishing for compliments, like girls do.
 
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