"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
FR: Approached a set at lunch.
- Thread starter ElStud
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I believe there's a two second rule that people follow, be spontaneous.
You were a man on a mission. Act like one.
2. If they want you to leave, leave.
You don't need them, make sure they know it.
3. They had you wrapped around their finger.
If they tell you to do something, you shouldn't always do it.
Considering the vibe, you shouldn't have done it.
You were their monkey for entertainment.
4. Escalate things, baby!
She she was a stripper, ask her to strip for you!
Stick a dollar down her pants, whatever!
My man Bvbidd, continues with the bad advice. Alkali's post was actually good, but I disagree that you shouldn't leave just because they want you to. That's being reactive. If you leave cause you want to leave great, but leaving because they asked you to is bad.Bvbidd said:Viper we already gave you feedback, you just reposted because you can't handle it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Stalker logic.ElStud said:I disagree that you shouldn't leave just because they want you to. That's being reactive. If you leave cause you want to leave great, but leaving because they asked you to is bad.
Dude, you're a joke.ElStud said:My man Bvbidd, continues with the bad advice. Alkali's post was actually good, but I disagree that you shouldn't leave just because they want you to. That's being reactive. If you leave cause you want to leave great, but leaving because they asked you to is bad.
So what if it's reactive? If they're not interested then you move on. By staying you're pretty much saying 'i've not got anyone else to talk to, even though it's clear you don't want me here'. Sure, it seems like you had a laugh after, although it seemed more like you were their performing monkey than a man on a pick up.
I still can't get my head around why you post UNSUCESSFUL approaches just to critique our advice, saying we're wrong.
Clearly your answers AREN'T right and you need to change your close-minded thinking. This 'approach' proves you've still not learnt any lessons. If you think i'm wrong can you please demonstrate what you think you did correctly in this FR.
An unsuccessful approach must be when they're giving me tons of interest. And I need to demonstrate nothing to you.dav22 said:Dude, you're a joke.
So what if it's reactive? If they're not interested then you move on. By staying you're pretty much saying 'i've not got anyone else to talk to, even though it's clear you don't want me here'. Sure, it seems like you had a laugh after, although it seemed more like you were their performing monkey than a man on a pick up.
I still can't get my head around why you post UNSUCESSFUL approaches just to critique our advice, saying we're wrong.
Clearly your answers AREN'T right and you need to change your close-minded thinking. This 'approach' proves you've still not learnt any lessons. If you think i'm wrong can you please demonstrate what you think you did correctly in this FR.
So you somehow already gave me feedback on a new approach? Yeah, you are an idiot.Viper we already gave you feedback, you just reposted because you can't handle it.
Actually an unsuccessful approach is one that doesn't lead to a close.An unsuccessful approach must be when they're giving me tons of interest. And I need to demonstrate nothing to you.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's called being polite. If they were ACTUALLY interested they would indicate they want to talk to you in the future - eg. with a number close or arrange a meet up.ElStud said:An unsuccessful approach must be when they're giving me tons of interest. And I need to demonstrate nothing to you.