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FR: 2nd date lay report...cooking dinner never fails

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Something I would highly advise guys to start doing is to invite a woman over for dinner on a 2nd date. I've done this 3 times in the past month and all 3 times it's involved after dinner sex...like immediately after dinner sex...initiated by the woman all 3 times.

All 3 women told me some version of "when I accepted the invitation to come over I knew I was going to fvck you". So I guess this goes to the point of women know what it means but they appreciate the gesture of a man cooking dinner for them instead of just inviting them over for a movie or whatever. Plus I am a good cook and I like involving them to whatever degree they like cooking. Just always ask if they have any foods they don't like so you don't cook something they don't want to eat.

So anyway, had a first date last Thursday with this woman, a solid HB 7 with a great body and a girl next door cute face. Went out for drinks and convo flowed smoothly, we had a lot in common and she even mentioned that "next time" she would get the drinks as I closed out the tab. We got to her car and it was snowing and she forgot her snow brush so I went and grabbed mine. As I went to hand it to her I just kissed her and she fvxking loved it....couldnt get enough and told me that it was totally unexpected and that she never kisses on the first date...in most cases I would call BS but I actually believe her because she is very shy and reserved and said she doesn't like people she doesn't know touching her. For whatever reason she loved it when I did it tho...maybe because I just went for it or maybe because she really liked me who knows...

Anyways so she was going to Florida for a week but before she left she asked if we could get together when she got back either Friday or Saturday. I said we would make something work and while she was gone she would initiate texting every night around 10:30...we would shoot a few texts back and forth.

So Thursday we are texting and I make plans for Saturday. Didn't hear from her Friday so I shot her a text Saturday morning saying I hope she got back OK and that I looked forward to seeing her later. She responded immediately and I invited her over for dinner and told her we would go out and do something fun after. Needless to say the 2nd part never happened.

She gets to my place and brought a bottle of wine and a stout...I open the wine and as we are talking and cooking the glasses start finishing. By the end of dinner went through the whole bottle.

After dinner we are talking about music and dancing so I go to turn the TV on to find some appropriate music for that and she just comes and stands next to me very closely, wraps her arm around me and just looks up at me with these eyes that just said "stop doing that and just come fvck me." Next thing I know we are kissing and started getting really into it...I played it a little slower than normal due to her being kind of reserved I wanted to make sure she was really warmed up...started kissing her neck then pinned her to the wall with both hands over her head...she started grinding on me and I was like "its on now!".

Clothes came off, we basically fvcked off and on all night from 8:30pm on and she just left around 9:30 this morning...this shy and reserved woman was a freaking seductress in the bedroom...just some really intense great sex...she already asked when we can get together again before she left so it looks like this is going to be an ongoing thing...

So in short, inviting a woman over for dinner on a 2nd date is a great move because in her mind if she says yes, she is already agreeing to fvck you and actually is expecting it which makes your job a lot easier.
 

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This is against PUA Bro Theory, but maybe the dinner at home awakens some sort of domestic comfort in them.
 

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Something I would highly advise guys to start doing is to invite a woman over for dinner on a 2nd date. I've done this 3 times in the past month and all 3 times it's involved after dinner sex...like immediately after dinner sex...initiated by the woman all 3 times.

All 3 women told me some version of "when I accepted the invitation to come over I knew I was going to fvck you". So I guess this goes to the point of women know what it means but they appreciate the gesture of a man cooking dinner for them instead of just inviting them over for a movie or whatever. Plus I am a good cook and I like involving them to whatever degree they like cooking. Just always ask if they have any foods they don't like so you don't cook something they don't want to eat.

So anyway, had a first date last Thursday with this woman, a solid HB 7 with a great body and a girl next door cute face. Went out for drinks and convo flowed smoothly, we had a lot in common and she even mentioned that "next time" she would get the drinks as I closed out the tab. We got to her car and it was snowing and she forgot her snow brush so I went and grabbed mine. As I went to hand it to her I just kissed her and she fvxking loved it....couldnt get enough and told me that it was totally unexpected and that she never kisses on the first date...in most cases I would call BS but I actually believe her because she is very shy and reserved and said she doesn't like people she doesn't know touching her. For whatever reason she loved it when I did it tho...maybe because I just went for it or maybe because she really liked me who knows...

Anyways so she was going to Florida for a week but before she left she asked if we could get together when she got back either Friday or Saturday. I said we would make something work and while she was gone she would initiate texting every night around 10:30...we would shoot a few texts back and forth.

So Thursday we are texting and I make plans for Saturday. Didn't hear from her Friday so I shot her a text Saturday morning saying I hope she got back OK and that I looked forward to seeing her later. She responded immediately and I invited her over for dinner and told her we would go out and do something fun after. Needless to say the 2nd part never happened.

She gets to my place and brought a bottle of wine and a stout...I open the wine and as we are talking and cooking the glasses start finishing. By the end of dinner went through the whole bottle.

After dinner we are talking about music and dancing so I go to turn the TV on to find some appropriate music for that and she just comes and stands next to me very closely, wraps her arm around me and just looks up at me with these eyes that just said "stop doing that and just come fvck me." Next thing I know we are kissing and started getting really into it...I played it a little slower than normal due to her being kind of reserved I wanted to make sure she was really warmed up...started kissing her neck then pinned her to the wall with both hands over her head...she started grinding on me and I was like "its on now!".

Clothes came off, we basically fvcked off and on all night from 8:30pm on and she just left around 9:30 this morning...this shy and reserved woman was a freaking seductress in the bedroom...just some really intense great sex...she already asked when we can get together again before she left so it looks like this is going to be an ongoing thing...

So in short, inviting a woman over for dinner on a 2nd date is a great move because in her mind if she says yes, she is already agreeing to fvck you and actually is expecting it which makes your job a lot easier.
What about for guys who don't have their own house?

HB7? Supposed to be HB 8 on up on here.

Anyway, congrats. Was this chick older or younger than you? I'm going for cougars lately. Would they be an easier lay?
 

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This is against PUA Bro Theory, but maybe the dinner at home awakens some sort of domestic comfort in them.
Shrug...its kind of common sense when you think about it and it circumvents a lot of the obstacles you will face using other methods.
 

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What about for guys who don't have their own house?

HB7? Supposed to be HB 8 on up on here.

Anyway, congrats. Was this chick older or younger than you? I'm going for cougars lately. Would they be an easier lay?
I'm good with 7s all day. Lower maintenance and they look good without having to deal with all the BS. And they can take some d!ck...super hot chicks can't take d!ck to save their life...

She was actually the same age as me.
 

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Yup. I’ve had much success with the come over fir dinner deal.
 

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I'm good with 7s all day. Lower maintenance and they look good without having to deal with all the BS. And they can take some d!ck...super hot chicks can't take d!ck to save their life...

She was actually the same age as me.
I'd take a 7 but if a 42 yr old cougar is a 9for her age I'd take her.
 

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Something I would highly advise guys to start doing is to invite a woman over for dinner on a 2nd date. I've done this 3 times in the past month and all 3 times it's involved after dinner sex...like immediately after dinner sex...initiated by the woman all 3 times.

All 3 women told me some version of "when I accepted the invitation to come over I knew I was going to fvck you". So I guess this goes to the point of women know what it means but they appreciate the gesture of a man cooking dinner for them instead of just inviting them over for a movie or whatever. Plus I am a good cook and I like involving them to whatever degree they like cooking. Just always ask if they have any foods they don't like so you don't cook something they don't want to eat.

So anyway, had a first date last Thursday with this woman, a solid HB 7 with a great body and a girl next door cute face. Went out for drinks and convo flowed smoothly, we had a lot in common and she even mentioned that "next time" she would get the drinks as I closed out the tab. We got to her car and it was snowing and she forgot her snow brush so I went and grabbed mine. As I went to hand it to her I just kissed her and she fvxking loved it....couldnt get enough and told me that it was totally unexpected and that she never kisses on the first date...in most cases I would call BS but I actually believe her because she is very shy and reserved and said she doesn't like people she doesn't know touching her. For whatever reason she loved it when I did it tho...maybe because I just went for it or maybe because she really liked me who knows...

Anyways so she was going to Florida for a week but before she left she asked if we could get together when she got back either Friday or Saturday. I said we would make something work and while she was gone she would initiate texting every night around 10:30...we would shoot a few texts back and forth.

So Thursday we are texting and I make plans for Saturday. Didn't hear from her Friday so I shot her a text Saturday morning saying I hope she got back OK and that I looked forward to seeing her later. She responded immediately and I invited her over for dinner and told her we would go out and do something fun after. Needless to say the 2nd part never happened.

She gets to my place and brought a bottle of wine and a stout...I open the wine and as we are talking and cooking the glasses start finishing. By the end of dinner went through the whole bottle.

After dinner we are talking about music and dancing so I go to turn the TV on to find some appropriate music for that and she just comes and stands next to me very closely, wraps her arm around me and just looks up at me with these eyes that just said "stop doing that and just come fvck me." Next thing I know we are kissing and started getting really into it...I played it a little slower than normal due to her being kind of reserved I wanted to make sure she was really warmed up...started kissing her neck then pinned her to the wall with both hands over her head...she started grinding on me and I was like "its on now!".

Clothes came off, we basically fvcked off and on all night from 8:30pm on and she just left around 9:30 this morning...this shy and reserved woman was a freaking seductress in the bedroom...just some really intense great sex...she already asked when we can get together again before she left so it looks like this is going to be an ongoing thing...

So in short, inviting a woman over for dinner on a 2nd date is a great move because in her mind if she says yes, she is already agreeing to fvck you and actually is expecting it which makes your job a lot easier.
My experience where I live, Netherlands, is that this method can work here too, but only if the woman is already totally into you (love on first sight, or something like this). If not, she can feel not comfortable and therefore not attracted to you, because you are caring more for her than she can do for you. The becommng the Nice Guy risk would be to big, as far as I can see for the situation here.
 

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My experience where I live, Netherlands, is that this method can work here too, but only if the woman is already totally into you (love on first sight, or something like this). If not, she can feel not comfortable and therefore not attracted to you, because you are caring more for her than she can do for you. The becommng the Nice Guy risk would be to big, as far as I can see for the situation here.
Cooking dinner doesn't have anything to do with being a nice guy. Especially when you frame it as cooking together which is what I usually do.

Your thought process is totally off here bro.
 

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My experience where I live, Netherlands, is that this method can work here too, but only if the woman is already totally into you (love on first sight, or something like this). If not, she can feel not comfortable and therefore not attracted to you, because you are caring more for her than she can do for you. The becommng the Nice Guy risk would be to big, as far as I can see for the situation here.
I agree. It is a "nice guy" risk, especially if you have not fvcked her yet. That home visitation can be limited to a Netflix and chill with alcohol served. Once you are getting lays, an occasional dinner or something is nice and it will deepen the connection. Let HER cook too. People value what THEY invest in, so get her azz investing.

The "nice guy" risk in cooking the home cooked meal and you haven't hit it, is that you make her feel GOOD and comfortable, and taken care of.... She goes back home and fvcks another guy. You buttered her up and got her juices flowing. Then later when she wants that good feeling again, she calls you, because you cook dinners and take care of her, she doesn't even "have" to have sex...
 

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I agree. It is a "nice guy" risk, especially if you have not fvcked her yet. That home visitation can be limited to a Netflix and chill with alcohol served. Once you are getting lays, an occasional dinner or something is nice and it will deepen the connection. Let HER cook too. People value what THEY invest in, so get her azz investing.

The "nice guy" risk in cooking the home cooked meal and you haven't hit it, is that you make her feel GOOD and comfortable, and taken care of.... She goes back home and fvcks another guy. You buttered her up and got her juices flowing. Then later when she wants that good feeling again, she calls you, because you cook dinners and take care of her, she doesn't even "have" to have sex...
This is projected theory versus what actually happens in real life. In real life if a woman agrees to come over to your place on a 2nd date she ready has basically agreed to fvck you in her mind. In fact all 3 this past month told me some version of this... That it was "too soon to be doing that" (fvcking a guy) but they just decided they didn't care.

In all 3 cases THEY initiated before I had a chance to really do anything.
 

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This is projected theory versus what actually happens in real life. In real life if a woman agrees to come over to your place on a 2nd date she ready has basically agreed to fvck you in her mind. In fact all 3 this past month told me some version of this... That it was "too soon to be doing that" (fvcking a guy) but they just decided they didn't care.

In all 3 cases THEY initiated before I had a chance to really do anything.
I knew some really bad hos that would let you do all this cooking without sex happening if you allowed it. But good to hear you feel most are decent enough that theres a good possibility of it being a good outcome.
 

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I knew some really bad hos that would let you do all this cooking without sex happening if you allowed it. But good to hear you feel most are decent enough that theres a good possibility of it being a good outcome.
I've never had this happen. Probably because I don't project a "nice guy" image to them. I'm not afraid to make a move and escalate and I have already done so significantly on date 1 so date 2 is just a natural continuation of that with the exception that its behind closed doors and we don't need to worry about other people watching what we are doing...
 

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I've never had this happen. Probably because I don't project a "nice guy" image to them. I'm not afraid to make a move and escalate and I have already done so significantly on date 1 so date 2 is just a natural continuation of that with the exception that its behind closed doors and we don't need to worry about other people watching what we are doing...
Oh, brother... There are females who will string you along, feed you scraps like a female AMS. I'm not saying all females, but if you think all will fall in line for your rules, you are mistaken.
 

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If they agreed to meet at your place, sex was already on the table as long as you dont mess it up.

It would of happened wether or not you cooked for them.
 

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Fact: Chicks looking for relationships are easier to deal with as they are more selective and date/talk to far less people than the woman who is casually dating (hooking up). They are far less hassle, submit much easier/sooner and quite a bit more feminine.

I have EXCELLENT results when inviting them over to cook dinner. Its ALWAYS penne alla vodka because mine is the bomb. We always drink when making dinner. First a pickleback, then wine or whatever.
I cant tell you when the last once came over to make dinner and didnt fvck.

It's like the dinner gets them feeling as if you might be LTR material and they give in to their natural instincts of sex happening.

If a woman gave the impression she just wanted to hook up, why would I make her dinner? She could come over and fvck and leave. Perfect fine.

But the 2nd date of making dinner with wine is alluring to the women who are higher value (and know it) and screen thoroughly. It's a slightly romantic gesture that appeals to them while still getting what you want in the end.

Those of you that arent doing this either cant cook or cant close. Or dont have your own place. And you need to be working on all of the 3 of those if you're lacking.
Wine, dinner, fvcking.......then you go back to responding to her reaching out and you just turned a quality woman into a plate. Or pursue a relationship. Whatever your heart desires.

I have one coming over to make dinner, drink wine and watch a movie this Friday. Although it's a first date we know each other (not extremely well) in real life so it was easily agreeable from her. And she is already texting me sexual stuff and getting herself hyped up for Friday night.

Cooking dinner and wine at your place is much cheaper than going out for dinner and drinks while logistically setting it all it all up for sex to happen.

If you're not doing this you're missing out. It also separates yourself from all the other dudes asking her to come Netflix and chill....but the result is the same.
2nd date is perfect timing for this unless you know the chick and then go for it right up front.
 

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Oh, brother... There are females who will string you along, feed you scraps like a female AMS. I'm not saying all females, but if you think all will fall in line for your rules, you are mistaken.
I've never run into those women...i guess maybe I screen well
 

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Fact: Chicks looking for relationships are easier to deal with as they are more selective and date/talk to far less people than the woman who is casually dating (hooking up). They are far less hassle, submit much easier/sooner and quite a bit more feminine.

I have EXCELLENT results when inviting them over to cook dinner. Its ALWAYS penne alla vodka because mine is the bomb. We always drink when making dinner. First a pickleback, then wine or whatever.
I cant tell you when the last once came over to make dinner and didnt fvck.

It's like the dinner gets them feeling as if you might be LTR material and they give in to their natural instincts of sex happening.

If a woman gave the impression she just wanted to hook up, why would I make her dinner? She could come over and fvck and leave. Perfect fine.

But the 2nd date of making dinner with wine is alluring to the women who are higher value (and know it) and screen thoroughly. It's a slightly romantic gesture that appeals to them while still getting what you want in the end.

Those of you that arent doing this either cant cook or cant close. Or dont have your own place. And you need to be working on all of the 3 of those if you're lacking.
Wine, dinner, fvcking.......then you go back to responding to her reaching out and you just turned a quality woman into a plate. Or pursue a relationship. Whatever your heart desires.

I have one coming over to make dinner, drink wine and watch a movie this Friday. Although it's a first date we know each other (not extremely well) in real life so it was easily agreeable from her. And she is already texting me sexual stuff and getting herself hyped up for Friday night.

Cooking dinner and wine at your place is much cheaper than going out for dinner and drinks while logistically setting it all it all up for sex to happen.

If you're not doing this you're missing out. It also separates yourself from all the other dudes asking her to come Netflix and chill....but the result is the same.
2nd date is perfect timing for this unless you know the chick and then go for it right up front.
Pretty much my thoughts exactly...I don't have a go to dish tho, I kind of tailor it based on what I am in the mood for and what their dislikes are.
 
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