"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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randomly found this on my Facebook feed thanks to advertising; figured it would be worth sharing as it is congruent with what we talk about here.

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I do agree on the part about focusing on your purpose, but I dont necessarily agree on the part that you cant do it in a relationship.

What you need is a woman that supports your purpose. But you also need the strength to push towards your goals if she becomes defiant or difficult. You must know when it is time to cut your losses when it interferes with your purpose.

Also agree with chasing lots of women, in that it is a huge distraction from your purpose. It's why I dont understand having more than 2-3 plates at a time, at that point it becomes a huge distraction to your purpose.

This is also practically a repeat of David Deida's stuff, not really original at all.
 

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Disagree with this as well. I don't ever stop working on myself so by his logic I can't ever date. There's no finish line to self improvement or dating. In fact, if you're in a relationship it's even more important to keep improving. If you find a hotty who improves your life, you want to be even higher in SMV if it ends so you can move up again. Plus self improvement is super attractive to women. Drop the word ambition around women when you're discussing relationships and watch their eyes light up. They love it.

I agree you need a purpose, a goal and a plan, and you shouldn't let women interfere with these, but that doesn't mean you can't have both at the same time.
 

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Damn. It's like everyone and their mother are "authors" now. On what authority does he have to write or make a statement like this? In reality, we're all alone first, so his video is a bit pointless.
 

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Thanks for the input. Wasn’t sure what to think of it. I like where the heads are at here. He had some good points though
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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