"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Forum Suggestion: Zoomer and Boomer areas

Should we create age-specific forum areas? (for Zoomers, Millineals, Gen X and Boomers)

  • Yes

    Votes: 3 18.8%
  • No

    Votes: 13 81.3%

  • Total voters
    16
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CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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Realistically your only going to engage in narratives and discussions you are interested in, raising the age doesn't diminish or enhance interest, only the interaction these posts see.

Maybe we just need respective corners for the old kooks and young Incels to circle jerk in and leave the rest of the forum for people who want to interface with each other respectfully
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I don't think spreading out the forum with more sections will do anyone any good.

The sections other than Don Juan Discussion are already relatively low activity and limited exposure.
There's a need for contrasting viewpoints so more sections are not needed. Contrasting viewpoints do make for good discussions if the discussions can be had respectfully and not resort to petty bickering and name calling.

I've always felt that "Mature Man" could be more productive with a higher age range. The median man doesn't have his first marriage until 30 now. Raising "Mature Man" to 30 or 35 as the minimum age could make that section more productive. I have seen some very good discussions over time come out of "Mature Man".
 

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There's a need for contrasting viewpoints so more sections are not needed. Contrasting viewpoints do make for good discussions if the discussions can be had respectfully and not resort to petty bickering and name calling.

I've always felt that "Mature Man" could be more productive with a higher age range. The median man doesn't have his first marriage until 30 now. Raising "Mature Man" to 30 or 35 as the minimum age could make that section more productive. I have seen some very good discussions over time come out of "Mature Man".
I've asked for it to be raised to 35 in a mod forum post, but didn't get support so that's where that is.

Calling a 25 year old "mature" is a joke, IMO. Most 30 year old guys wouldn't qualify even.
 

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Plenty of men are having sex with women who are 40+.
But should they? (Assuming they can pull younger).

Meh, if the 40+ year old passes their boner test, who cares. Bang away, I guess
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Realistically your only going to engage in narratives and discussions you are interested in, raising the age doesn't diminish or enhance interest, only the interaction these posts see.

Maybe we just need respective corners for the old kooks and young Incels to circle jerk in and leave the rest of the forum for people who want to interface with each other respectfully
Calling other posters "old kooks" who "circle jerk" is your way "to interface with each other respectfully"... I see.
 

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There's a need for contrasting viewpoints so more sections are not needed. Contrasting viewpoints do make for good discussions if the discussions can be had respectfully and not resort to petty bickering and name calling.

I've always felt that "Mature Man" could be more productive with a higher age range. The median man doesn't have his first marriage until 30 now. Raising "Mature Man" to 30 or 35 as the minimum age could make that section more productive. I have seen some very good discussions over time come out of "Mature Man".
You talk about the importance of "contrasting viewpoints", but then acknowledge a forum area "could be more productive with a higher age range". Maybe those inconsistent views point to the same underlying problem: abusive members tend to be younger.
 
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Is a woman in her 40s too young or too old? Men in their 30s and 50s may answer that differently, and both be right.

Instead of taking sides, maybe those discussions would be better on age-specific forums. Forum members born 1997-2012 would have access to the Zoomer forum, but not the others. Another Millineal-specific forum for birth years 1981-1997, and one for Gen X from 1965-1980. Anyone born 1964 or earlier meets their peers on a Boomer forum.
Why would we ever have a snowflare area on the forum where people can cry, be offended and complain more?

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Those disagreeing with my suggestion have a theme: the belief all members have something valuable to contribute. If that's true, why do we need a block list? Have you blocked other posters, despite them having something to contribute?

I've noticed those abusive posters have something in common. Now not all younger people are abusive... but abusive posters tend to be younger. Maybe "The Mature Man" was set aside for just this reason, but I don't think a limit of 25 years old is enough (And let me acknowledge that @BackInTheGame78 has voted to raise that age, and other mods have voted for the status quo - so its known, but not consensus).
 

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Why would we ever have a snowflare area on the forum where people can cry, be offended and complain more?
Good example of why excluding younger posters like you can be valuable. Do you have anything to contribute besides insulting others as a "snowflake" who "cry, be offended"?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Good example of why excluding younger posters like you can be valuable. Do you have anything to contribute besides insulting others as a "snowflake" who "cry, be offended"?
Damn; you're already triggered! That was way too fast... :rofl::devil::lol:
You just proved my point.
 

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There certainly are a number of griefers on the site. Never have truly understood why griefing people provides satisfaction to anyone, but it certainly seems to be in vogue.

One thing is playful good-natured ribbing then there is griefing. It's not productive.
 

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There certainly are a number of griefers on the site. Never have truly understood why griefing people provides satisfaction to anyone, but it certainly seems to be in vogue.

One thing is playful good-natured ribbing then there is griefing. It's not productive.
I suspect griefers (and trolls in general) skew younger. People who think time is valuable aren't wasting it.

One flaw in my idea: a forum for younger members may concentrate those same abusers in one place. Overall a better suggestion might have been one forum with a higher age requirement than 25.
 

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I've asked for it to be raised to 35 in a mod forum post, but didn't get support so that's where that is.

Calling a 25 year old "mature" is a joke, IMO. Most 30 year old guys wouldn't qualify even.
You and I share a similar vision on this.

Overall a better suggestion might have been one forum with a higher age requirement than 25.
Yes!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I was being sarcastic, the site is fine the way it is
Call your bosses "old kooks"[1] and explain you were "being sarcastic" and I doubt "interface with each other respectfully"[1] shows up in your performance review. You want to be rude, then don't pretend other people need to be respectful.

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Maybe we just need respective corners for the old kooks and young Incels to circle jerk in and leave the rest of the forum for people who want to interface with each other respectfully
 

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Call your bosses "old kooks"[1] and explain you were "being sarcastic" and I doubt "interface with each other respectfully"[1] shows up in your performance review. You want to be rude, then don't pretend other people need to be respectful.

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Boohoo, cry about it some more
 
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