"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Forum Suggestion: Zoomer and Boomer areas

Should we create age-specific forum areas? (for Zoomers, Millineals, Gen X and Boomers)

  • Yes

    Votes: 3 18.8%
  • No

    Votes: 13 81.3%

  • Total voters
    16
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CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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Realistically your only going to engage in narratives and discussions you are interested in, raising the age doesn't diminish or enhance interest, only the interaction these posts see.

Maybe we just need respective corners for the old kooks and young Incels to circle jerk in and leave the rest of the forum for people who want to interface with each other respectfully
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SW15

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I don't think spreading out the forum with more sections will do anyone any good.

The sections other than Don Juan Discussion are already relatively low activity and limited exposure.
There's a need for contrasting viewpoints so more sections are not needed. Contrasting viewpoints do make for good discussions if the discussions can be had respectfully and not resort to petty bickering and name calling.

I've always felt that "Mature Man" could be more productive with a higher age range. The median man doesn't have his first marriage until 30 now. Raising "Mature Man" to 30 or 35 as the minimum age could make that section more productive. I have seen some very good discussions over time come out of "Mature Man".
 

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There's a need for contrasting viewpoints so more sections are not needed. Contrasting viewpoints do make for good discussions if the discussions can be had respectfully and not resort to petty bickering and name calling.

I've always felt that "Mature Man" could be more productive with a higher age range. The median man doesn't have his first marriage until 30 now. Raising "Mature Man" to 30 or 35 as the minimum age could make that section more productive. I have seen some very good discussions over time come out of "Mature Man".
I've asked for it to be raised to 35 in a mod forum post, but didn't get support so that's where that is.

Calling a 25 year old "mature" is a joke, IMO. Most 30 year old guys wouldn't qualify even.
 

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Plenty of men are having sex with women who are 40+.
But should they? (Assuming they can pull younger).

Meh, if the 40+ year old passes their boner test, who cares. Bang away, I guess
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Realistically your only going to engage in narratives and discussions you are interested in, raising the age doesn't diminish or enhance interest, only the interaction these posts see.

Maybe we just need respective corners for the old kooks and young Incels to circle jerk in and leave the rest of the forum for people who want to interface with each other respectfully
Calling other posters "old kooks" who "circle jerk" is your way "to interface with each other respectfully"... I see.
 

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There's a need for contrasting viewpoints so more sections are not needed. Contrasting viewpoints do make for good discussions if the discussions can be had respectfully and not resort to petty bickering and name calling.

I've always felt that "Mature Man" could be more productive with a higher age range. The median man doesn't have his first marriage until 30 now. Raising "Mature Man" to 30 or 35 as the minimum age could make that section more productive. I have seen some very good discussions over time come out of "Mature Man".
You talk about the importance of "contrasting viewpoints", but then acknowledge a forum area "could be more productive with a higher age range". Maybe those inconsistent views point to the same underlying problem: abusive members tend to be younger.
 
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Is a woman in her 40s too young or too old? Men in their 30s and 50s may answer that differently, and both be right.

Instead of taking sides, maybe those discussions would be better on age-specific forums. Forum members born 1997-2012 would have access to the Zoomer forum, but not the others. Another Millineal-specific forum for birth years 1981-1997, and one for Gen X from 1965-1980. Anyone born 1964 or earlier meets their peers on a Boomer forum.
Why would we ever have a snowflare area on the forum where people can cry, be offended and complain more?

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Those disagreeing with my suggestion have a theme: the belief all members have something valuable to contribute. If that's true, why do we need a block list? Have you blocked other posters, despite them having something to contribute?

I've noticed those abusive posters have something in common. Now not all younger people are abusive... but abusive posters tend to be younger. Maybe "The Mature Man" was set aside for just this reason, but I don't think a limit of 25 years old is enough (And let me acknowledge that @BackInTheGame78 has voted to raise that age, and other mods have voted for the status quo - so its known, but not consensus).
 

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Why would we ever have a snowflare area on the forum where people can cry, be offended and complain more?
Good example of why excluding younger posters like you can be valuable. Do you have anything to contribute besides insulting others as a "snowflake" who "cry, be offended"?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Good example of why excluding younger posters like you can be valuable. Do you have anything to contribute besides insulting others as a "snowflake" who "cry, be offended"?
Damn; you're already triggered! That was way too fast... :rofl::devil::lol:
You just proved my point.
 

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There certainly are a number of griefers on the site. Never have truly understood why griefing people provides satisfaction to anyone, but it certainly seems to be in vogue.

One thing is playful good-natured ribbing then there is griefing. It's not productive.
 

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There certainly are a number of griefers on the site. Never have truly understood why griefing people provides satisfaction to anyone, but it certainly seems to be in vogue.

One thing is playful good-natured ribbing then there is griefing. It's not productive.
I suspect griefers (and trolls in general) skew younger. People who think time is valuable aren't wasting it.

One flaw in my idea: a forum for younger members may concentrate those same abusers in one place. Overall a better suggestion might have been one forum with a higher age requirement than 25.
 

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I've asked for it to be raised to 35 in a mod forum post, but didn't get support so that's where that is.

Calling a 25 year old "mature" is a joke, IMO. Most 30 year old guys wouldn't qualify even.
You and I share a similar vision on this.

Overall a better suggestion might have been one forum with a higher age requirement than 25.
Yes!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I was being sarcastic, the site is fine the way it is
Call your bosses "old kooks"[1] and explain you were "being sarcastic" and I doubt "interface with each other respectfully"[1] shows up in your performance review. You want to be rude, then don't pretend other people need to be respectful.

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Maybe we just need respective corners for the old kooks and young Incels to circle jerk in and leave the rest of the forum for people who want to interface with each other respectfully
 

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Call your bosses "old kooks"[1] and explain you were "being sarcastic" and I doubt "interface with each other respectfully"[1] shows up in your performance review. You want to be rude, then don't pretend other people need to be respectful.

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Boohoo, cry about it some more
 
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