"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Forum DJ's - Settle a debate

Best option when it comes to getting/giving phone #'s

  • It is better to only give her your phone number

    Votes: 3 11.1%
  • It is better to only get her phone number

    Votes: 24 88.9%

  • Total voters
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Derek Flint

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Please settle a debate.

Is it better to give out your phone number to a woman, or is it better to get her's?

Sorry, no option for both, as that wasn't part of the debate.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It is a man's duty to get her's!!
 

azanon

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That's no debate; its an overwhelming consensus.

You get the girl's phone number. We don't wait by phones.
 

danielzxc

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I voted it is better to get her number. But giving your number CAN work. And in crowded or busy environments, or when the target is in a large group and you don't like opening large sets, giving your number is acceptable, imo.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mr_knowit_all

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I thought we were going to settle the debate in person with our contest?

Having a bunch of keyboard jockeys vote in a stupid online poll is hilarious.

Such a big shyt talker, but can't back shyt up. When you grow those imaginary balls you talk so much about, come see me. Like I said, we'll see who pulls more chicks.
 

Derek Flint

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Mr_knowit_all said:
I thought we were going to settle the debate in person with our contest?

Having a bunch of keyboard jockeys vote in a stupid online poll is hilarious.

Such a big shyt talker, but can't back shyt up. When you grow those imaginary balls you talk so much about, come see me. Like I said, we'll see who pulls more chicks.
You're down 16-2

Either everyone is wrong, or you are.

Yeah, I can travel in the Spring, and you can be embarrassed again.

What's the contest rules again? Who can give their phone number to the most women? :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

Le Parisien

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We all know too well that hot girls don't call, at least at the initial getting to know eachother stage, simply because they are overwhelmed with options, and they don't know how (supposedly) great you are, yet... You are just another guy.

So it's our duty to take charge and call her.
 

PRMoon

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I think it's a matter of contact and who you are personally that makes the difference in which one you choose.

If I've met a girl and we've been talking for sometime and she seems interested in me then getting her number would be the optimum choice. She knows who I am, she willingly gave me her number so in that transaction, which probably took me at least 10 minutes but could be an hour for all I know, this is the natural and best conclusion I could come to.

Conversely, I'm reminded of a sketch done by Martin Lawrence about meeting a girl in a group of hot girls in a night club. He presented himself in a smooth and suave manner, politely introduced himself to the girl he was interested in, pardoning his interuption. Complemented her on her apearance in a good way and gave her his card which had his number on it. Closed and exited back to his buisness. Total time taken was less then 1 minute. From that prospective you could potentially meet a larger number of girls and meet with similar results if you so desired. It's the same principle I use as a promoter giving out free passes and building my guest list daily. I know not ALL of them are going to return my efforts but since I hit up so many I know at least a few are going to take the bait. If I had done things the other way I'd be looking at a short list and probobly make no money.

I say to each his own. It's a different approach but it's like choosing between a sniper rifle and a shotgun. They'll both do the job but in different ways.
 

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In the past I GAVE THEM MY NUMBER cause i always knew they would call and guess what, 95% of the time they called.

The other reason why I gave them my number is because I had so many numbers that it was impossible to find the time to call any of them.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You take their number because I don't want to wait for her to call... to be busy when she calls to hang out and to give a heavy-balls required role to a girl who can not handle it.
 
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