What's going on ladies and fellas..this is my situation..there's a girl that I worked with that leaving the company..I feel like she kinda likes me/is attracted to me.. but I'm very strict on not saying the wrong things/messing with coworkers but now that she's leaving the company I really want to talk to her..has anyone been in this situation before? I flirt with her a little bit in a joking manner but i'm waiting till she's gone from the company to really spit at her
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Ask her out. Be direct and stop beating around the bush with her. She knows you and knows whether she wants that to happen or not. It will be an easy yes/no.
I will..this is whatever but we were texting yesterday I told her we should keep in contact and let me know how is her new job..she replied that me, her and another one of our coworkers who left our project should get drinks
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That's a good sign...strike while the iron is hot and capitalize on it. I'd invite her out for a drink and not mention the other person and see how she reacts.
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For what? A threesome?
I think that if she was interested in OP, she wouldn't have mentioned the other coworker.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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I'm in this exact situation, for 4 months that we worked together I took no action and kept beating around the bush. She left for a different department.
Recently she and another colleague called me up because they want to file a report against our manager. I now have her number.
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Which is why I suggested OP invite HER out for drinks without mentioning the other coworker. Her response will tell him a lot.For what? A threesome?
I think that if she was interested in OP, she wouldn't have mentioned the other coworker.
So the other coworker is a guy we worked with..I can 100% honestly say she's not interested in him..she's part of the reason why the guy was kicked off the projectFor what? A threesome?
I think that if she was interested in OP, she wouldn't have mentioned the other coworker.
Unless girls are truly that dumb I just can't see a girl liking someone that you're low-key trying to get fired lol..but I could be wrong.. she mentioned him because we went to a company event and took shots before..but at that event she was eying me and basically trying to talk to me any chance she had.. the same with another event we had 2 weeks ago..she saw me from across the room and approached to talk to me..this is the night she gave me her #
Lol it's difficult esp in 2022 because I don't want to say the wrong thing and it's turns into something else you never know someone's true nature that's why I'm waiting till she leaves
Since this post I haven't really talked to her but we talked briefly today at work..I guess her and the other coworker are actually friends and went out to get drinks a couple weeks ago.. whether something happened or idc but I'm going to see if she wants to hang out sometime soon
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.