What's going on ladies and fellas..this is my situation..there's a girl that I worked with that leaving the company..I feel like she kinda likes me/is attracted to me.. but I'm very strict on not saying the wrong things/messing with coworkers but now that she's leaving the company I really want to talk to her..has anyone been in this situation before? I flirt with her a little bit in a joking manner but i'm waiting till she's gone from the company to really spit at her
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Ask her out. Be direct and stop beating around the bush with her. She knows you and knows whether she wants that to happen or not. It will be an easy yes/no.
I will..this is whatever but we were texting yesterday I told her we should keep in contact and let me know how is her new job..she replied that me, her and another one of our coworkers who left our project should get drinks
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That's a good sign...strike while the iron is hot and capitalize on it. I'd invite her out for a drink and not mention the other person and see how she reacts.
pipeman84
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For what? A threesome?
I think that if she was interested in OP, she wouldn't have mentioned the other coworker.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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I'm in this exact situation, for 4 months that we worked together I took no action and kept beating around the bush. She left for a different department.
Recently she and another colleague called me up because they want to file a report against our manager. I now have her number.
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Which is why I suggested OP invite HER out for drinks without mentioning the other coworker. Her response will tell him a lot.For what? A threesome?
I think that if she was interested in OP, she wouldn't have mentioned the other coworker.
So the other coworker is a guy we worked with..I can 100% honestly say she's not interested in him..she's part of the reason why the guy was kicked off the projectFor what? A threesome?
I think that if she was interested in OP, she wouldn't have mentioned the other coworker.
Unless girls are truly that dumb I just can't see a girl liking someone that you're low-key trying to get fired lol..but I could be wrong.. she mentioned him because we went to a company event and took shots before..but at that event she was eying me and basically trying to talk to me any chance she had.. the same with another event we had 2 weeks ago..she saw me from across the room and approached to talk to me..this is the night she gave me her #
Lol it's difficult esp in 2022 because I don't want to say the wrong thing and it's turns into something else you never know someone's true nature that's why I'm waiting till she leaves
Since this post I haven't really talked to her but we talked briefly today at work..I guess her and the other coworker are actually friends and went out to get drinks a couple weeks ago.. whether something happened or idc but I'm going to see if she wants to hang out sometime soon
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.