Vanilla
Senior Don Juan
I got a number but forgot the girl's name. It's not an easy one since she's asian. Any tips on how to reveal her name? I did a quick search and couldn't find anything in the DJ bible either.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Forgotten name
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Egyptiandude1
Don Juan
"Hey babe I was curious as how you spell your name?" always works for me
brenbaus
Senior Don Juan
works every time
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
works for me
Smooth Player 056
Master Don Juan
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Great line...kinda sucks though if her name is Jen though
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
legolas
Master Don Juan
Her: You donlt know how to spell Jen?
You: Is it one or two n-s
(never missing a beat)AC/DC
Master Don Juan
"How do you want your name in my phone?"
"How do you spell that? I didnt pass grade school."
"How do you spell that? I didnt pass grade school."
naoi deag se deag
Senior Don Juan
The only option is to make up a name. Call her, tell her you were reading the dictionary just now, and you found a great nickname for her. Something like racket or lawnchair - it should be stupid.