"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Forgot to get her number, but...

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So this weekend, I was at the airport waiting at the gater for my return flight from a college visit. This hot girl and I started talking, we really hit it off, had kino going, blah blah blah. We board the plane at different times, sit in different locations, and we dont talk again. Now this girl is from the same town as me, and we're going to the same college. Through the course of our conversation, she told me about her myspace. I know her name and everything cause of this roll call we took at the airport, so if I wanted to bad enough, I could find her and message her on myspace. I dont have a myspace (and told her I didnt) except for this joke one of a public figure my friend and I made. Now, I dont know what to do...should I...

1. Forget about it, and learn the hard way to always get the number first chance

2. Risk looking overinterested by messaging her on myspace


All I can say guys is always close. This girl was a 9 and modeled. Always Close. Always.Close.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Tell me her myspace url, i wanna see how she looks like. dont worry i am not stealing her from you, she probably to old for me anyways!!
 

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if you get a 2nd chance, use it wisely... you could have something good
 

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Yeah...another option I have is waiting until college and hoping I run into her. I'll definitely have forgotten by then though ;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lesson: Close the first fvcking time its a lot easier then!

Personally I'd go for it. You've nothing to lose, really.
 

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And I remember in my AFC days listening to Space Dye Vest when I'd just been dumped. Not a good idea.
 

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aftershock said:
And I remember in my AFC days listening to Space Dye Vest when I'd just been dumped. Not a good idea.
Haha, never done it myself, but certainly doesn't sound like a good idea. I hope now you listen to "As I Am";)
 

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DreamTheaterFan said:
1. Forget about it, and learn the hard way to always get the number first chance

2. Risk looking overinterested by messaging her on myspace
Oh my god. This site has help make a breed of such idiots it's unfathomable. No offense intended man, but think about what you just said. You risk looking over-eager if you track her down on myspace, true. She might not care and you might hit it off. Or if she's turned off by it, then worst case scenario, you don't get to bang her. So your best alternative plan of action is to automatically force the worst case scenario, by not contacting her, you guarantee that you're not going to bang her.

Think about that. How does that make sense? How is option one in any way better than option 2?

2) maybe you get to hit it, maybe you don't.

1) You don't get to hit it.

You people take the DJB waaaaay too far and create the exact problems you hope to avoid in the first place, lack of sex.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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