"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Forgive me if this is blatantly obvious but...

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Doesn't seem to me like there's any mystery about how to get a girl to like you. All you should have to do, it seems, to take her from "this guy's ok" to "this guy's great!" is... get her feeling good.

And isn't that quite easy? Think, what would make *you* feel good, talking to someone? You like talking about your interests and passions, right? And someone who seems to care about them can make you like them pretty fast, especially if they seem interested in them too.

Also, I get the feeling that the difference between becoming friends versus something more is mirroring and kino.

Ahh, do I have any idea what I'm talking about?



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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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good post!


Peace Out
DZ

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Yep! There are more things than just that, but thats about the simplest way I can think of to get someone to like you.
 

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Damn that's a pretty good post... I have yet to get good at making a girl feel good... mirroring is pretty easy for me if I want to do it... but, the part of trying to make a feel good hasn't worked for me.
 

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hello!

hey good post! with some girls you have to add social proof / jealousy to your arsenal :-D but I think that kino does a very good job and helps you stay away from the friendship-hell-zone!

ciao tomazu
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by xms:
Doesn't seem to me like there's any mystery about how to get a girl to like you. All you should have to do, it seems, to take her from "this guy's ok" to "this guy's great!" is... get her feeling good.

And isn't that quite easy? Think, what would make *you* feel good, talking to someone? You like talking about your interests and passions, right? And someone who seems to care about them can make you like them pretty fast, especially if they seem interested in them too.

Also, I get the feeling that the difference between becoming friends versus something more is mirroring and kino.

Ahh, do I have any idea what I'm talking about?



 

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bump
 

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Yes but what people realize is that doing some things does lower her interest in you.

If you are always kissing her butt, buying flowers and candy, this alone won't help the interest and will likely hurt it.

I think alot of us have done things to make a girl that was once interested in us, no longer interested.

This is why the DJ bible and everything else is still useful. When you don't realize that certain things are hindering the seduction, you will never change.
 

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Ricky,

You are wrong. Don't listen to me, or do. Take offense, or don't. Either way, you are still wrong. So is much that is taught here, and all of the "original" boards on how to pick up woman (it is all the same sh!t that everyone preaches; go ask the bum/crackhead on the corner, he can easilty spit this stuff. Look in the club; everyone is the "P.I.M.P.")

Would you get turned off by a woman you really liked who bought you gifts? I doubt it. I know I'm not. I love it. It's not the gifts. It's the fact that you come over as "buying" their affection that makes you look weak and unworthy.

What do women want? What do you want? Someone who makes them feel special, important, worthy, and, above all, a human. Interact with woman as people and you will be golden. Yes, you want there pu$$y, but so what? Don't you want your customer's money at work? Doesn't stop you from forming a relationship as "humans."

I Have Risen
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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iqqi

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i have been drinking, don't mind me....

it is true. if a woman likes you, and you make it seem like you are smitten by her, it is flattering. this is how i always get played.

"awwww, he keeps buying me flowers, and called me his girl on the first date. hmmm....what a catch. either he realizes i am the sh!t, or he doesn't even realize he is the sh!t. wow, what a catch!....."

then i get played. hmmm....

maybe i should start being a typical cold hearted b!tch...
 
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