"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Forget asking for DATES. Youre offering an ADVENTURE!!!!!

NeverFear

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When I used to ask women out, here's what it sounded like:

1. What ya' doing on friday night?
2. Do you like Italian?

And I'm guessing that you guys have a better offer, but not all that much better.



Remember guys. You're NOT asking her on a date. You're asking her to join in you BIG ADVENTURE.

So MAKE it one.

The date you go on must be absolutely unforgettable. this means something unpredictable, exciting, and fun.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Exile

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Good advice, but what are we suppose to say?
"Hey, come over, letz go on a great adventure...ehh....to my basement, with that 52 inch tv and a new movie rent." lol, just kidding. But seriously, can u give some examples?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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"Friday, let's try out that new Italian restaurant that we saw on TV the other night."

It' doesn't have to be a huge adventure, just decisive.
 

DreamerZZ35

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Originally posted by NeverFear
When I used to ask women out, here's what it sounded like:

1. What ya' doing on friday night?
2. Do you like Italian?

And I'm guessing that you guys have a better offer, but not all that much better.



Remember guys. You're NOT asking her on a date. You're asking her to join in you BIG ADVENTURE.

So MAKE it one.

The date you go on must be absolutely unforgettable. this means something unpredictable, exciting, and fun.

Here is a recent example (emailed her)......

Your prescense is required next Thursday evening for hours of fun, laughter, drinks and best of all..... me!

We will start our eveing at the funnybone* 6:30 pm ring my bell (yeah baby!) and well go....



*comedy club they are cheap and you get them laughing.m Which is associated with you... not only that but its not the typical dinner,dancing or movie thing... once the weather turns nicer Im doing the zoo and minature golf.... anthing that is activity based.
 

-HPNOTIQ-

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Lame:
"Hey girl, you wanna go out for Sushi this Sunday Around 9ish?"

DJ Style:
"Hey girl...This Sunday night, wear something really sexy because I'm taking you out to this utlra-swank Sushi Bar Downtown...Yeah, everybodies going to be there because they have a great happy hour at nine and a Hawaiian Band that plays reggae music all night...I don't want to miss out on all the fun...sooo..I'll pick you up at 9 and we'll get there by 930ish for drinks and some good ass food!!!"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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