Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Forget asking for DATES. Youre offering an ADVENTURE!!!!!

NeverFear

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When I used to ask women out, here's what it sounded like:

1. What ya' doing on friday night?
2. Do you like Italian?

And I'm guessing that you guys have a better offer, but not all that much better.



Remember guys. You're NOT asking her on a date. You're asking her to join in you BIG ADVENTURE.

So MAKE it one.

The date you go on must be absolutely unforgettable. this means something unpredictable, exciting, and fun.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The Exile

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Good advice, but what are we suppose to say?
"Hey, come over, letz go on a great adventure...ehh....to my basement, with that 52 inch tv and a new movie rent." lol, just kidding. But seriously, can u give some examples?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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"Friday, let's try out that new Italian restaurant that we saw on TV the other night."

It' doesn't have to be a huge adventure, just decisive.
 

DreamerZZ35

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Originally posted by NeverFear
When I used to ask women out, here's what it sounded like:

1. What ya' doing on friday night?
2. Do you like Italian?

And I'm guessing that you guys have a better offer, but not all that much better.



Remember guys. You're NOT asking her on a date. You're asking her to join in you BIG ADVENTURE.

So MAKE it one.

The date you go on must be absolutely unforgettable. this means something unpredictable, exciting, and fun.

Here is a recent example (emailed her)......

Your prescense is required next Thursday evening for hours of fun, laughter, drinks and best of all..... me!

We will start our eveing at the funnybone* 6:30 pm ring my bell (yeah baby!) and well go....



*comedy club they are cheap and you get them laughing.m Which is associated with you... not only that but its not the typical dinner,dancing or movie thing... once the weather turns nicer Im doing the zoo and minature golf.... anthing that is activity based.
 

-HPNOTIQ-

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Lame:
"Hey girl, you wanna go out for Sushi this Sunday Around 9ish?"

DJ Style:
"Hey girl...This Sunday night, wear something really sexy because I'm taking you out to this utlra-swank Sushi Bar Downtown...Yeah, everybodies going to be there because they have a great happy hour at nine and a Hawaiian Band that plays reggae music all night...I don't want to miss out on all the fun...sooo..I'll pick you up at 9 and we'll get there by 930ish for drinks and some good ass food!!!"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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