"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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For those who have stopped Masturbating

itishe

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I know alot of guys here planned or are in the process of quitting masturbation all together. I was curious how that is going for you guys. Is the sex better? Are you hornier? Do you get limp less during sex due to higher sex drive?

Tell me all the benefits of quitting that you've experienced.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Poonani Maker

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lost sex drive
 

Fuglydude

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The only way i can not masturbate is if I'm busy ALL the time and dont' get a chance to... I live with my gf so sex is always available. However, I do shift work and our schedules sometimes don't overlap a lot so I take care of it myself.

My sex drive is too high to not jerk it. I find when I stop for a couple of days sometimes I get so horny I have trouble focusing on stuff because all i think of is sex. I also pop a lot easier during sex when I don't do it :D ...

I don't really understand why guys want to stop masturbating. Like anything else, what's wrong with doing it in moderation?
 

Darth

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It's really hard for the first few weeks. You start looking at all the girls like pieces of meat. It's awful. It's actually a withdrawal cycle that includes other things like anxiety, insomnia, and other stuff.

If you can get past that, though, you start feeling a lot better about yourself. But it's hard to do.

So the long-term effects are really good, but short-term effects suck, which is why most people cave after a couple weeks. They need masturbation to feel normal.

But yeah, in general you feel hornier even after having quit.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DrD77

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What I have been doing is cutting back, not cutting it out altogether. I only do it like once every 2 days or so. I know that I wouldn't be able to last without it, so this is my solution. I also quit porn.
 

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I think quitting porn is the all around best thing to do. I have heard of guys that cant do their thing without their hand but i think that's pretty rare. But I think it's more common to have a messed up perception of beauty because of porn.
 

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as for all things in life....too much or too little isn't good.

MODERATION!

i posted an article about the ill effects of (compulsive) masturbation in another thread. im trying to fight it off now. i have had alot of them symptoms.
 

mrRuckus

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kabatura said:
But I think it's more common to have a messed up perception of beauty because of porn.

Or so the fat chicks would have you believe...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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