"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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For those who have stopped Masturbating

itishe

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I know alot of guys here planned or are in the process of quitting masturbation all together. I was curious how that is going for you guys. Is the sex better? Are you hornier? Do you get limp less during sex due to higher sex drive?

Tell me all the benefits of quitting that you've experienced.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Poonani Maker

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lost sex drive
 

Fuglydude

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The only way i can not masturbate is if I'm busy ALL the time and dont' get a chance to... I live with my gf so sex is always available. However, I do shift work and our schedules sometimes don't overlap a lot so I take care of it myself.

My sex drive is too high to not jerk it. I find when I stop for a couple of days sometimes I get so horny I have trouble focusing on stuff because all i think of is sex. I also pop a lot easier during sex when I don't do it :D ...

I don't really understand why guys want to stop masturbating. Like anything else, what's wrong with doing it in moderation?
 

Darth

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It's really hard for the first few weeks. You start looking at all the girls like pieces of meat. It's awful. It's actually a withdrawal cycle that includes other things like anxiety, insomnia, and other stuff.

If you can get past that, though, you start feeling a lot better about yourself. But it's hard to do.

So the long-term effects are really good, but short-term effects suck, which is why most people cave after a couple weeks. They need masturbation to feel normal.

But yeah, in general you feel hornier even after having quit.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DrD77

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What I have been doing is cutting back, not cutting it out altogether. I only do it like once every 2 days or so. I know that I wouldn't be able to last without it, so this is my solution. I also quit porn.
 

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I think quitting porn is the all around best thing to do. I have heard of guys that cant do their thing without their hand but i think that's pretty rare. But I think it's more common to have a messed up perception of beauty because of porn.
 

facadegeniality

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as for all things in life....too much or too little isn't good.

MODERATION!

i posted an article about the ill effects of (compulsive) masturbation in another thread. im trying to fight it off now. i have had alot of them symptoms.
 

mrRuckus

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kabatura said:
But I think it's more common to have a messed up perception of beauty because of porn.

Or so the fat chicks would have you believe...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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