I suggest you focus on developing a network of friends in a social circle as #1 priority. You would be surprised how much having a group of guy friends can help you get women. If you are just some loner, you are going to have a much harder time meeting women. Even women friends can help, but you need guy friends as well.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
For those that have no life/girls
- Thread starter rrrrr
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
How?rrrrr said:
Master Bates
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Ken785
Master Don Juan
how?? man i asked you to go sarging like twice already...Maxtro said:
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Thats different. Right now I don't like the idea of going out to look for chicks. That will probably change when this semester is over.Ken785 said:
But the point of my "how" was that the OP's "tip" without an explanation on how to do it is basically useless.
Consider these "tips"
If you want to have regular sex, get a girlfriend.
If you are short on cash, become a millionaire.
They aren't that useful now are they?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
SickAgain
Senior Don Juan
forget getting guy friends. get a job. you have to interact with strangers all day and that will help with social skills. people have to understand you can't go from an introverted loser to some guy who starts cold approaches. you need to develop your social skills first. a baby can't walk if it can't crawl first. plus you can always make friends with the people you work with. it has so many benefits, money too.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Actually getting a job is a great idea. But it has to be a place where a lot work. I'm trying to get a retail job because I'm broke. Most retail jobs will have a lot of "young people" working there. The rest is up to you.
knglerxt
Senior Don Juan
Maxtro said:
Yeah. I have a job, but it doesn't give me a lot of chances to talk to women. I'm a security guard at a computer manufacturing plant. There's actually a girl I like who works in the Administration department, but I hardly ever see her. Now, if I worked with this girl and was around her every day I could talk to her.
That's my main problem. It's not that I can't talk to girls; I'm just not around girls long enough to get to know them. If I could change this one thing, I don't think I'd have much of a problem getting a girlfriend.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Actually trying to get girls at work is generally a bad idea. A job is generally a good place to make male friends.
But still, find an excuse to go talk to that admin girl.
But still, find an excuse to go talk to that admin girl.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
knglerxt
Senior Don Juan
SickAgain said:
Why do some people around here insist on insulting and degrading other people? Why do you have to use the word "loser"? Why not just say "introverted guy" or something?
SickAgain
Senior Don Juan
Introverted people don't have many friends and lack social skills. Losers don't have jobs. Sometimes they just go together, like in this case. I'm sorry if you got offended. I'd rather be introverted than a loser for sure.
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Learn the real definitions of introverted and extroverted. They have nothing to do with social skills.SickAgain said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
SickAgain
Senior Don Juan
There's no need to get pedantic. You know what the fvck I mean.Master Bates said:
If you want to have guy friends just for the purpose of getting pu$$y then you are weak IMHO.rrrrr said:
Grow a pair and approach women. Friends will actually slow down your progress most of the time when it comes to women because most of them are AFCs.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
go out and talk to people.Maxtro said:
I'm curently in college and I have a large amount of friends because of it.
If not in college? Go do some charity work. Why? You get two things a sense of well-being plus a bunch of good people that will work with you.
Getting a job? I have mixed reactions about. First, I don't like working under people and secondly, most of the time (retail especially) the work will get monotonous. My job right now, is awesome. I love working as the mascot because I am constantly out meeting new and interesting people.
comic_relief
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
I'm in community college, have been for many years. I've never made a friend out of it. Granted, I don't bother talking to guys as I have no interest in making any effort to make buddies. I only talk to girls and I have yet to do anything outside of class with any of them. But this is the first semester that I have begun to engage people in conversations.comic_relief said:
I have been thinking about doing some volunteer work. My mom has done some for the big events in the city and she has said that there were many girls my age doing that stuff.
ROFL the mascot :crackup: And yet it suits you perfectly
steveoo5
Don Juan
I thought this site was for people looking to improve their game not people who think they know everything, trying preach some stupid retarded shiv
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.