She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
this is very true. a friend of mine who goes to a nearby all-girls school told me that girls from her school hang around our university's library...they pretend to study and are there for the sole purpose of meeting guys. i've known this for a while, but i never really tried doing pickups in the library...Originally posted by tweeder 4. YOU DIDN'T THINK THEY WERE REALLY IN THE ACTIVITY CENTER TO STUDY DID YOU? How many times did you go through a center of some sort, and see a girl at a table by herself reading? Too many to count I'd guess. Don't let this fool you. They're waiting for you. They just need to look busy so they don't come off as pathetic. Are some girls really studying? Of course, but not a lot of them. So how do you tell the difference? Her eyes do all the talking you need.
If a girl is wanting a guy to approach, she'll look up every couple of minutes to see who's around. If she's really studying she won't be doing this. She'll be concentrating too much. So if you see a girl, stay in her line of site for a minute. If she looks up, lock eyes and smile. You might catch her off guard and she'll look back down without smiling. Don't worry. Hang around. IF she's interested she'll check you out again. When she does just go to her table and ask if you can join her. Tell her you're waiting for you're next class or whatever. Then go from there. It's easy I promise.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
If you're a newblar on campus, just walk up to the hottest chick you can find and ask where your class is, even if you already know (read that in a NYTimes article, heh). I'm going to Paris this term, wtf do you think the first thing I'm gonna do is? Damn rightOriginally posted by The_Mole
awesome post. i'm going to start college in 2 weeks and this is just what i needed to read. i tried saying hi to girls on campus during orientation but they were walking so fast, i couldnt even say anything yet. i did pick up some in the classes though. whats the best phrase for a campus pick-up?(not in class or in the dorms because that is easy)
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yeah CCs suck, thats why I studied to make it into a UC far away from home :rockon:Willis said:i guess im the only 1 here not hyped, even though theres gonna be chicks what makes me think that they want me.
and another thing theres still other things ivolved like studying 4real, test, homework and all that other stuff and i dont think that i'll make it with any girls since its jus a lame-a$$ community college and nobody talks to me anyway
and also i went to orientation and i could tell nobody really wanted to talk 2 me they didnt even look at me especially the hot girls, so i guess its gonna be jus like high school all over again
but hey, thats life
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Most confusing sentence I have ever read on sosuave.nethabdragon08 said:When you first meet a girl, shake her and when she tells you her name, and when you must part.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.