"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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For single guys with children

americandude

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There's been strikes this month here in France, so I have been driving to work instead of taking public transport. On my way back home tonight, there were 3 women that took the elevator with me to their cars. When the first woman got off, I wasn't sure if that was my floor because I was too busy checking out the youngest of the three, so I said "merde" and then said sorry or whatever. Anyway, me and the two other women get off on the next floor and their car is a little further away than mine. I get into my car and I notice that the young woman is checking me out. We work in the same building, so there's a possibility that I'll see her again. I don't think she saw the car seat in my backseat, but it got me thinking about whether or not I should be hiding it in my trunk when I don't have my son with me.

Also, on dating sites you can sometimes state whether or not you have children. It's a negative for a lot of women, so I was wondering how open other single guys with children are with revealing that bit of information. Of course, the subject should come up eventually, but I'm thinking maybe it's better to not advertise it in the beginning.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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derby1

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Im an addict, i dont tell people "i dont drink".........I just say "im not really interested in drinking today"

let the subject come when it comes, dont reveal it at first.......women are covert when it comes to feelings........most women have children and most women have alcoholism, their double standards kick in when its you as the aggressor though
 
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