Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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around 60 of my schoolmates and i went on a trip, and as early as the plane ride there this girl was (or seemed to be) interested in me. for the first 2 days of the trip there was pretty strong chemestry going on, and she was taking peaks at me (i caught her looking at me in one of those mirrors girls use to check there make-up). so i presumed there was something there, so i put on my DJ cap and went for it. but on the third night, my friend (who also said there was some chemestry) told his GF who i liked, and i think someone may of heared and went and told her. so later that night things went down a few notches, and she hung out with some other guy i know a few days later. i dont think it was anything, and they dont hang in the same group at school, so im not freaking out or anything. since we got back i think ive noticed her looking at me, but it could my mind playing tricks on me. irealize i probably sound like a panzy wuss, but i had to say this somewhere where i could get intelligent feedback, so i decided this was the place.

thanks for listening to me ramble away
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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you should have tried to get with that while you were on a trip...nothing would have been better than hooking up at a vacation!
 

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i tried, but it was only 5 and 1/2 days, im a little out of shape, and im not the best DJ out there.
 

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Originally posted by chill
i tried, but it was only 5 and 1/2 days, im a little out of shape, and im not the best DJ out there.
fat guys get chicks too, dog. Notorious BIG...got many of the most gorgeous girls in hollywood, because he knew how to play the game.
 

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dont be insecure

talk to them when they look at you like that

say something witty

you can do it
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i did make a pretty good joke when she looked at me with the vanity mirror. i said, " look, your supposed to use the mirror to make yourself look good, not look at good looking people" not supprisingly, she denied it, but was blushing kinda bad. if you look at a mirror and can see some ones eye looking at you, that means there looking at you, right?
 
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