"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
For anyone who went through a BPD/Crazy girl/Psycho nightmare
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
xstang77
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Actually just screwed around with my bpd ex lately after removing her from my life for 7 months,got dumped by my dream girl and I was at a low,they really don't change same games,chase you until they have a taste then push away. Tread very carefully with these sorry excuses for humans,mine even almost had me falsely arrested once.
Once you've gotten a BPD out of your life keep them out of your life, ya your mind thinks maybe I can change them the second time. Nope they don't change they are fvcked up you can blame their parents for that one. The girl I was with tried to change her life no matter how much she tried it all failed. If her parents mainly her father didn't screw up raising their daughter she would be a perfect catch. I liked her she is smart, she had the good looks, I loved being with her but the BPD part of her caused so much drama in my life. She used to make me laugh we understood each other, as our relationship progressed the ugly side of her come out. I didn't leave the relationship unscathed she caused me a lot of stress, she started accusing me of stuff I never did.
Her dad needs to be cuffed across the side of his head, look at what you did to your daughter she's fvcked for the rest of her life.
Her dad needs to be cuffed across the side of his head, look at what you did to your daughter she's fvcked for the rest of her life.
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These people don't change either so in case there's any guys in one of these relationships still trying to be hopeful and holding on GET OUT, things will not get better,the goal of this disorder is for them to destroy the one they claim to love,if you look you'll see every person that's actually good to them they treat awful. Some of the things mine put me through are so inhumane and embarrassing I will never share with another soul, I screwed mine after 7 months nc because I'm completely over her though still not smart to do and she's still the most magnificent pathological liar I've ever known. Every promise or plan is empty,literally goes from acting head over heels about your love past or present and the next day she'll be getting with another guy. The healthiest thing you can do for yourself or
Her is dump her and do whatever possible to protect yourself from what she may pull after doing so, it takes big life changing events for them to have the slightest chance of change.
Her is dump her and do whatever possible to protect yourself from what she may pull after doing so, it takes big life changing events for them to have the slightest chance of change.
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I wrote 'either' of the 4, because they are all one and the same. And the damage is subtle and insidious. With constant shifting of truths with lies which are so trivial you start to second guess yourself. It's easy to get caught in the web. Only when I got enough I reached escaped velocity and the fallout was brutal due to her abandonment issues.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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It's been said time and time again and it'll be said over and over again but it only gets worse the longer you stay involved because as they get worse you actually weaken at the same time.
Walk away and if you can only crawl, do that.
These girls will go to like new lows that'll shock you in an effort to screw you over.
Mine will be appearing on a reality TV show next year. I mean you couldn't make it up.
Walk away and if you can only crawl, do that.
These girls will go to like new lows that'll shock you in an effort to screw you over.
Mine will be appearing on a reality TV show next year. I mean you couldn't make it up.
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It's not filming till March, and I'm hoping something happens between now and then to prevent it but if it doesn't, I'll share privately via pm