Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I wrote 'either' of the 4, because they are all one and the same. And the damage is subtle and insidious. With constant shifting of truths with lies which are so trivial you start to second guess yourself. It's easy to get caught in the web. Only when I got enough I reached escaped velocity and the fallout was brutal due to her abandonment issues."BPD Crazy Psycho Nightmare"?? The title alone is evidence of a minimum of 3 mistakes that were made by OP. How can a girl become 4 levels of bad? You should have walked away at level 1 bad.
But oh, the poor OP needs a hug because she was just a really bad girl and he deserved a really good girl.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
It's not filming till March, and I'm hoping something happens between now and then to prevent it but if it doesn't, I'll share privately via pmDude...When it comes out you HAVE to share